Re:Maria replies to Julio
 

this isn't the first time something like this happen :-\

Re:Maria replies to Julio
 

when else did it happen?

Re:Maria replies to Julio
 

------- seperate... You two are calling the cops non stop on eachother... i would NEVER do that to the person I love unless they were going to harm themselves or kill me. Furthermore, to get on the CAR forum and post this ----... is ------- rediculous. Did you do this so we would feel sympathy for you? Pretend for a moment to be a grownup and deal with the matter directly with him and come up with a solution.

Re:Maria replies to Julio
 

Communication is your friend

Re:Maria replies to Julio
 

dont you remember? some dudes girlfriend got on saying they have problems telling all his business to us

Re:Maria replies to Julio
 

Two obvious realities, compromise or seperate. Since the COPS are involved I think some time apart for both of you is needed. It's obvious both of you need some real means of support, and a period to mature. Threatening to call the cops on each other is childish.

In a relationship a WORKING relationship roles must be assumed. What you two dictate what the role of each individual is really up to you two, but they should be followed. Sit down and discuss it, if you can't even do that then you really weren't meant to be.

Don't let mathais call another man his father, especially if the reasoning is because you two couldn't get along. I understand that some relationships do have abusive backgrounds but that doesn't seem to be the situation here. Denying him and his son a relationship is truly sad.

thats all the advice i can give now, good luck

Re:Maria replies to Julio
 

I really think the best thing would be to work things out. I have a feeling that bringing this problem to a fourm and making back and forth posts about it is gonna make this problem worse, which it sounds like you really don't want.

Also, I think the most important thing here is to think of your kid. I'm not anywhere near old enough to be having kids of your own, but I remember when I was around four years old my mother let one of her best friends deal with her divorce/husband in my house so the arguments could stay somewhat modderated. Even though what was happening wasn't really going to effect me that much , it is something that I will always remember very vividly and not very fondley.

Re:Maria replies to Julio
 

hey maria, got pics??
































j/k julio, you knew someone was going to say it ;D

Re:Maria replies to Julio
 

Not sure why you decided to post here Maria. It doesn't make much sense to me if you want to work it out that you come here and threaten him with "some other man being called daddy". I know guys that have kids that aren't the "family man" they should be, and Julio is not one of them. Julio takes Mathias to meets, brings him to installs, ect. At the drag meet he brought his son, and you (Maria) "Family Men" do that kind of stuff. If he wasn't ready to be a family man those kinds of things would never happen.
In general, if a marriage is to work, it's not the job of the police to be the responsible people in the marriage. It's up to the individuals. You can make it work, or maybe it's better for you guys not to be together. It's a decision you guys have to make, and keep.

In defense of all of this Julio bashing, I will say that Julio has called me before to say he needed time away from home and asked if he could stay with me. That action in itself will tell you he's not the "violent" guy" he's being made out to be. He decided to leave.

And I think that by your own words, "If Mathias ends up calling some other man daddy, it will be all his (Julio's) fault, shows that you don't want to take responsibility for your part of this failing relationship.

I'm not violent towards my wife whatsoever, but if my wife posted those words on HMT, I would probably plant drugs in her car and set her up for a good case in devorce court. Your really making things better here, Maria. :-\

Re:Maria replies to Julio
 

rofl

and in response to this...

If Julio feels HMT is family enough to spill his guts to, then no reason Maria *shouldn't* post here. I don't agree with the way the situation is being handled but if I were in Maria's shoes I would sure as hell post a response to what he posted. Probably in the same thread though. :P