I need a divorce!
 

It's like this. My ex ( some of you know her ) is making my life miserable. I cant have my son with me without her asking him who i was with and what we did. That and she holds over my head that if i keep bringing him around my current GF she will limit the time spent with him. I want to see him as much as i can but she enrolls him in classes and YMCA without asking me or thinking how it affects the time i see him. She also asks me to pay for half of the costs of the extracurricular activities. I pay her 500 a month in Child support and I pay for all my sons Benefits. On top of that, she makes more than me. Im not gonna get into how much but we both make enough to make 70-80k combined. I also need to mention that ever since he was born she has included him on her taxes and i have yet to claim him. He was born in 02 and we got married in in 05 and even after the marriage was i able to claim him or head of household. I have been fucked since day one! I'm tired of her ---- and i want to move on. I dont want her to have control over when i can see my son and i guess i need to have the courts help me with this. My plan is to file for custody, divorce before she does. This will be done within the end of this month and she wont know. I have all the e-mails of her bad mouthing me and text messages along with voicemails and various other pieces of evidence.

Im tired of this and i want it to stop.

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Sorry man but a divorce won't do it. You need a hired hit man. 8)

I feel sorry for your son though for having to go through all this. I think I feel more sorry for him then I do you.

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how is she your ex but you still dont have a divorce? :l

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same, make sure you super good to him because its harder on him then you. :)
good luck little guy.

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its ironic how when you have a relationship with a woman and end up having kids its the man thats really getting fucked, even though you don't discover this until later.

ps she can't limit any of your visitation rights if you are paying child support, otherwise you can sue her and get custody.

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Divorce sucks ass on kids, I experienced it first hand. Be there for the kid and he'll get through it okay. The thing you have to remember is that even though you may hate her, she is still the mother of your child.

Good luck man....

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I do what i can for my son whenever and will do so for as long as i live. I pay her money cause i know my son needs things like food, clothes, shelter. The fucked up thing is that i cant be a good father to him if she wont let me be around him when i want. Its been everyother weekend for my for the most part and when hes in school i pick him up afterwards. Hes with me at least 3 times a week form 10-1:30 and then i drop him off with his grandma and i have to be at work at 2. The every other weekend ---- isnt doing much for me this summer cause she enrolled him in fucken YMCA knowing very well i could have kept an eye one him till i went to wrk and then he would ony be with my mom/ siter from 1:30 - 5pm. I really want to have my son everyweekend and more if possible. I love him to death and it sucks thatwe couldt make it work between his mom and i but i wasnt gonna make myself miserable forcing myself to be with his mom.

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Be careful what you write online, you never know if she ever comes by this.

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Oh man I busted out laughing after reading that line. lol. Bro your situation sounds exactly like my brother's whole situation with him and his ex. After the divorce though they changed and seem better and actually talk to each other and doing things with the boys together unlike before where they wanted to see each other dead.
On a side note I can finally get some fresh barbacoa from the local beaner supermarket as they only make it on weekends. 8) Dude I think I was an esa in another life :8

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Didn't mean you had to stick up with the bitch, but if you do get custody I'd still allow her to see him. Thats all I meant. you're allowed to hate her all you want man thats your perrogative haha

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i think the solution here is for you to have another kid with her ;D

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trust me i've been though a devorice you need to keep all the e-mails, text messages and vioce mails of her being crazy. you need need need too......... i cant express that enuff so you can prove that she is an unfit mother and wife and you can get full custody of your son

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iirc, she came by awhile ago...

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Now how about you edit a certain part in your post, Julio :8

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When my parents got divorced all 3 of us were given to my father has my mother was found to be unstable enough to raise us,which well was has true has it gets. Let the courts do the work and once you have all the official documents your suppose to see him every weekend etc and she pulls this crap she is digging herself a hole. Good Luck be honest and try to keep the nonsesnse away from your son but Ill promise MOM is already trying to do some mind games that what my MOM use to do to me has I kid. It was lame by the time I was about 12 reality hit me in the face in that she was a ------ ----. My opinion still stands.

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The price you will pay will be measured in years.

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the best thing would be to keep it out of court. see if you 2 can come up with an agreement out of court through mediation. both of you should have lawyers present to make sure thing go as smooth as possible.

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i agree. once it hits court, then the courts never butt the ---- out, its like they own a part of you once you go in.

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call Dr.Phil
actually maybe honda-tech may have an answer for you :-X

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honda-tech has answers?? thats news to me

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lsten to this man take that bitch to court!!! if my wife ever pulled some ---- like this i would ------- kill her weomen in general suck and can be so cold blooded when it comes to revenge...dumb -----s hope you get this right...

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Talk to your sn(how old is he?)
find out if he would like to live with you

if so, u have joint custody right now because you arnt devorced or that.

once you have the child in your possion you can keep him(your his father)
at that time file for custody, as long as you dont let the ex get a hold of him in that time he is yours.

because you already have the child with you at the tie the custody is filed then she by law has to fiight you for custody, not the other way around.

dont listen to me or anyone else on here. we are not lawyers and your son dezervies better the our half knowing greasy opinions. talk to a lawyer, thats it

There is nothing more important to a young boy then his father

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Wrong, the state has custody and the parents have guardianship. You petition the state for some degree of custody when parents decide to play tug of war with a little kid's feelings.

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I say get Mathias and run to TJ. I'll come visit yah. 8)

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I got a couch for u 2, grab him and boost on down

canadian asylum

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From a woman's opinion, sounds like she is raping you in the ass with sandpaper. Its unfortunate that most states will not award custody to REAL FATHERS/DADS when the mother cannot be proven "unfit". 9 times out of 10 the state will opt to keep a child with the birth mother over anyone, including fathers. I'm hoping this changes to suit the truly good fathers out there, but its just now becoming a slim chance over none.

Two major problems I see you running into here.
If you petition for divorce, she may claim that you have been committing adultery. If your son has said anything about your current girlfriend, you may be in trouble there. She will most likely take what little you have left just based on that. She will cite that your reason for divorce is the other woman, and they will vote in her favor.

Secondly, the divorce will most likely lead to a custody battle, in which she may try to keep you from having the right to any custody. From the sound of whats going on now, she is slowly prying him away OR using him as a pawn for your attention. Even if you are granted joint custody, this actually means that you will see your son on her terms, when it is convenient for her; much like what you're dealing with now.

I'm not sure what kind of positive advice I could give, as this is always a rocky situation. If she is in any way reasonable, try your hand at telling her how it is, the way you need it to be, or get ready for war. Tell her that you are just trying to remain a good father to your son, but that your schedule requires a little more flexibility out of her.

Best of luck to you, I'm always on the side of REAL fathers.

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if she has feelings for u sill get her to go to a party with you. video tape her getting all drunk and then get a friend of yours to get her to do some drugs, even weed.

use this video evidence to show she is a unfit mother O0 :8

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Both of you need to get counseling its gonna be way harder on the kid if you dont

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that ---- sucks ive watched like 5 of my friends go through this ---- in the last year and dont ever want to go through it

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counceling is a must especially when kids are involve, get some counceling professionally, I bet the it will help ya'll to sort out the real problem in the relationship, and give ya'll ideas on how to fix it. plus the judge is going to ask if ya'll got counceling before concidering divorce.

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+1 counseling will be suggested before the courts make a decision prolonging this ---- to go on. ---- what she reads on here for all she can prove im julioboostmante and i use a proxy server to log on to my other account and make posts about my life.

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I kinda figured i would get fucked if she brought up that i left her forsomeone else. But she has no proof. Yeah my son knows my "friend" but that doesnt mean i left her because of that. I truly left cause i was fed up ofher and her ways. I always had to explain mysefl whenever i did something that didnt involve her. I wasnt really happy and i chose to marry her because i figured if i did things would change. They didnt... I'm dumb!

Now, the only thing i knwo that in CA you can get divorced for anything. YOu dont need to explain anything. I belive its called dissolution of marriage. Besides, she has her boyfriend now cause i was sent a text by mistake and she fessed up about it. The other thing is that she also started seeing another guy a while back ( we separated over a year ago ) and would go on dates with her, my son, he and his little girl. SO she's no angel.

Im gonna go to this place www.legalgrind.com

Its near my work. I'll see what i can do about this.

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best of luck man

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How utterly convenient.

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you should do something like this but some how make dinner for her and put some thc, pcp, coke....etc in it ...just enough to show up on a drug test
and call child protective services on her and tell them shes doing drugs while the kids in the house. :6

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C'mon, as much as i hate her i couldnt do that. He needs his mother as much as he needs me. Im in no way trying to be vindictive but i am doing what is necessary to prove that I am not just sitting here waiting to me see my son whenever she wants me to. I want to see him as much as i can. SHe is just making it difficult on me for what ever reason.

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Joe Escalante, he's my lawyer. He doesn't want money, he does it all for ya. And he knows what he's talking about....

;) Indie 103.1 mp3

Julio, I thought you guys were divorced already. This is a very tough situation now.
The court is going to look at several factors, not just income. Savings for Mathias as well. Safety will be key. Environment, household, transportation, etc. Is his school close by. YMCA was a smart thing for Maria to do. It helps her case out unfortunately. You need to talk to some professionals right away and come up with a plan.

You can do it! Stay up man. I wish you the best bro.

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The whole YMCA thing i think is cool for my son but you dont understand that by him going i dont get to see him during the week. It sucks for me cause now i only have the every other weekend to see him and i miss the little guy a lot. I know about all those factors you speak of so i know its not like an open and shut case. However, if i get the courts involved she cant pull the BS she doesn when ever its time for me to see him and i can feel better about her not acting like a immature 29 year old.

Do you know that last night when i called to speak to my son at around 9pm she was not home and had not been for some time? he told me she was out in the desert somwhere and that she wouldnt be home till later on in the night. well, had than been me she would have made a big deal about how what ever time i have with my son should be spent with me and he and that i shouldnt leave him with my mom or sister. Now here she is doing just that and she didnt even come home till past 11pm. What a douche! I even called her to ask her if i could take my son all this week to the YMCA so i could at least see him in the morning and she never returned my call or texts. This sucks royal ass!

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good luck julio

i'm gonna do what i can to avoid this type of bs

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Learn this lesson from me kids! Girls can be cunts!