so it sits and runs and ---- but after a while the head lights click off and then back one, i manualy turn them off and on a few times and it will come back on, only to shut off again. relay? ive check and its fine, im about to jus wire these bad boys to a switch tru ***** style, help me out.

 

Do you have Day TIme Running Lights?.

When mine did this I ripped the DTRL box out and just straight bypassed it to only work with the switch and no Day Times.

 

lol um no itsa 89 crx si i dont think they even made them then.

 

wire it to a switch (but wire it in as close as possible to the actual oem switches). if they work fine then the switch is bad, if they still turn off/on at random times look elsewhere.. check grounds, then the relays.

 

Im wondering if once the engine bay is all nice and warm there is enough resistance to not allow the headlight relay to stay switched on. I'd check signal voltage at the relay when the car is cold then after its warmed up.