robs99si

i don't think you should leave your dad, try and help him with his depression. he must have some type of skil if he was good at his previous job. how long has he been unemployed? if it happened yesterday then maybe he needs sometime to reflect and is stil in shock he got laid off.
i got laid off last year cause i went against the grain w/management plus a couple major brown nosers there. i'm doin my own thang now, but it took me a few weeks to get back grindin. take your dad to the park, or a high school football game! it'll make him happy when he sees you're trying to help him and give him a reason to try again. anything to snap him outta any depresion he might have. as for your step mom, it might bother you, but it might be outta your control to get her to stop drinking, you could always try though. AA works. get your dad outta the house as often as you can for any little reason so he snaps back to his old self. i wish you and your pops the best of luck and health.

FURACERMAN

Drink all the alcohol so your step mom's got nothing left. Nah. Yeah it's hard for us to give you advice, just because we're not there to see the whole situation. I wouldn't leave your dad just yet if he's depressed. Talk with both of them. Be the man of the house, and put your foot down. If things don't change at all, move in with your mom. And yes, keep up with your school work. I wish I stayed in the game, and picked up a few scholorships. Good luck man, hang in there.

Donald125

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dragon

yeah..If your dad not stepping up to the plate to make things better be a man a let him know. Tell him how you feel just like you told us. It might get harder from here on it might not, but now is the time you have to learn whats best for you

Breaker84

Don't worry dude, someone else out there always has it worse. I hate my stepdad and I truly resent my mother for marrying the -------, so I'm not close to my mother as I used to be. I got some home problems too and I'm ------ 20. I put up with this ---- for 10 years, so don't worry, everything will work out ok. Just don't worry yourself too much. Go out with your dad to help him look for a job, you'd be spending quality time with him and helping him out at the same time. Kill 2 birds with like 4 tires... Is that how the saying goes? Well, hope I made you feel better. HMT is always here for you buddy.

OnYx

you are an idiot, drugs and alcohol just add to the problems. obviously with a comment like that you are doing them and have NO brain cells left.

As for the problem its time to let your dad deside what he is going to do. get a job and start making a living. try to help the family and not run away from it, that tends to put alot of stres on everyone and really doesnt solve a whole lot. I would also get your mom to go to AA or something to get over her problem which is more than physical, it is all mental. and alot of people who drink too much think they have no problem they do. there is alot of people on this site like that, they think drinking a 12 pack after they get off work is ok and there is no problem and they refuse to see what is actually happening to there life. Perhapse after your dad get another job its time to move to your mom after she is done with her degree to get away for a bit and let your dad figure out what to do with your stepmom. To find out wht is bothering you step mom you could try to find some sort of pattern to figure out why she is drinking and figure out if you can help things. as much as you hate it and your current situ. family is the most important thing in life. With out family and friends there is NOTHING in this world for you. and no drug can hide that.

stillnoturbo

After your stepmom gets done with a bottle just take it and crack it over her skull and tell her everytime she finishes one you get to small it over her head. Seriously.

SkunT

I think someone said something about finding something constructive outside of the house. I think that would be a good idea. find a girl who wants to spend alot of time, and go with that. find a job. find a jab which also goes along the lines of your hobbies. get a new hobby, which consumes alot of time.

-try to be a volonteer somewhere, like a big brother/big sister thing. I don't know. I would try to find something to do, outside of the house.

but the advice on getting your dad out, I think thats a good idea to. you can't just walk out on your dad because then he will think he failed you, and never be straight again. he never done anything wrong, so you cant walk out on him.

it might be a good idea for you to move with your mom, but i would have that as a last resort.

CivicComingSoon

he would fight it but one thing georgia is a live to work state. his boss could say ur ugly and then ur fired, tehres not ---- we can do. as far as the racial coment it was said in private out of work.

ive talked with all of them , i told my dad and stepmom i have everything ready to go to tampa, if you want me to stay stop all this bullshit. So we will see what happens, thanx for all the advice everyone. the sad thing is my dad is a very smart person with degrees in business. So he is no fool. Im trying to work it out with them tonight.

Thanks All for your advice!

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Guy-Fast

I say move if your mom is fine with it. I grew up in a very similar style home left when I was 17 and trust me it was for the better. It's hard but focus on goals and put the negative energy you experinced into a postive and it will all work out.