The old girlfriend vent!
 

So here it is guys, I was dating this girl for coming up on two years. The first year was great, first year and 6 months pretty good, but the last 3-4 months were just not the same. I really loved this girl but just didn't realize it and took things for granted (typical guy). Well me and her finally decided to call things off for awhile. This was the first time we have ever broke things off, never even thought about it before. Well I was thinking you know either im going to love being single and it's my time, or if I wanted just get back with my old g/f. Haha was I ------- worng. Well it was one month ago when we called breaks and now it is seriously killing me. When I try to call the girl I feel like im bugging the ---- out of her. I feel everything is lost and how could this be. Anyone have any suggestions. I just want to know what you guys think about this and what you have done to pass the worstest of all fealings of loosing a true love.

Some advice to all the guys treat you girl as if it was the last day and dont take things for granted. It will get back to eventually.

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4-5 years later (ask her to be sure) and im taking things for granted
if ur girl really loves you your in the clear 8)

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it dont sound like you know what you want dude. If you really had a revalation abut how she's the future wife, cool. but if your just lonely and want puss, that's what bars are for. most the time they just want to be freinds afterwards. :6 i hate it when i wake up and they call me their boyfreind. in anycase, X's are X's for a reason. the same ---- that made it old last time will do so much quicker on the next round. dont be a dumbass.

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She is ------- some other jock who has more money than you...I know its harsh, but we all have to face the truth at one point or another, I did.

My advice? Just take it easy man and dont think about her too much, find some rebound girls who are hotter and ---- them till your dick turns purple.

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Haha.

"Life is short, and love is always over in the morning"

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If its ment to be it will work out, My girl and I have somewhat similar situation but things are working out now, I'm lazy and get yelled at for not wanting to do anything other than cars :P but we had a nice week at the beach and relized we still love each other a lot and don't really want to be with anyone else and wanted to make things work out...but i think if you break up or take a break its not ment to be just my opinion

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True but not true, the girl I am with now I broke up with a long time ago, we were apart for 2 years and in the meantime dated other people, now we're back together and things are going very strong. she understands me and is there for me, I think that a girl must be able to understand who you are and who she is for the relationship to last, 60% of a relationship is communication and understanding. the rest is trust, if you dont trust each other then chances are it wont work.

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She's trying to break up with you, but shes to much of a -----. Own her. And make sure you get your stuff back before you do it.

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did u tell her what you told us?

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im a true believer in whats meant to be will be.

I was the same as you, didnt realise how much i cared untill she was gone......

Last year me and my girl broke off for a month but still texted & talked most days. We then both went quite and saw different people for about another month, i broker up with my girl because i missed my old one so much, i got a call the next day saying she had done the same.


We are now engaged and have just bought a house together ;) ;D

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i had a skank of an ex that i was with for 2 years and the last 6 months were hell. when i use to work weekend nights she would go out with friends and ---- around with other guys....well she started being a huge bitch when she started doing this and not trusting me cause she was afraid that i would do the same thing to her...so everything i did was never perfect and if i wanted to go out with friends she would throw a temper tantrum....what i'm trying to say is that maybe the sudden change in the relationship is that she could have done something with another guy and is feeling guilty so she starts acting different and then wants to have a break so she can clear her conscience...thats what my ex wanted and then i found out what she was doing so i took her best friends virginity, well ex best friend ;)

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Red flag.
I went through somthing simular. If she wanted it to work, she would put in some effort. Since she's not trying, it's not gonna work no matter how hard you try.
Dont waste any more time with her, move on.

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i agree. thats what im in the process of doing, its pretty hard, but your still alive aren't ya?

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Problem ------- solved man, nothing will make you feel better than poppin a cherry

But seriously, if its meant to be youll find a way to work it out, dont be a ----- though, say whats on your mind

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Hey man, I know what you're goin through... only double your time frame. I was going with my gf for 4 and a half years and just broke up a month ago... this is the shittiest time of my life. We were going to get married... bought rings... both of us came to the realization we just had too many problems to make it work (for now). And like you, this was the only time we've ever broken up.

On the bright side, the 3 grande I spent on her ring I got back and used some to buy a kickass custom turbo setup :) (not installed yet)


Right now, I'm in the stage where I am hanging out a lot with my good buddies and consuming massive amounts of alcohol... doesn't help really, but my raging alcoholism has been kicking in lately. I wish I had some great advice for you, but I'm in your shoes... people have been telling me to keep my head up. We'll just see about that.

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Same ---- just happend to me a week ago, me a the girlfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up.....now shes all about going to the bars etc....im sure shes havin tons of fun while im hatin life, but life goes on....its super depressing i know, but really think about it, there are 6 BILLION people on earth....you will find another lady lol

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go bang some sluts, always made me fell better.

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Just think of the bright side, you could always kill yourself and have her and her one night stand laugh at you. Or...........you could bang the nastiest sluts you can find and laugh about how that beeitch was about to tie you down.

Oh yeah, don't call her again. She'll be more attracted to you if she can't figure out why you're not being a ----- whipped bitch anymore. :y

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i was thinking about posting something like this today. my GF (avatar) and I broke up last night, we were going out for little over year and a half. and apparently a lot of stuff changes when you come back from Europe ::) not to jack your thread or anything, but to let you know that it happens all of the time and you just need move on. like ppl said ^ ^ ^ if its meant to work, it will. but dont sit at home and wait, go out and ---- some bitches. >:D

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I just went through a similar thing with my gf.

I didn't know what I wanted. We broke up and she started talking to this guy (i found out, just to make me jealous). I told her how I felt about everything, and even if we would not have got back together, it was nice to know that she knew what I was really thinking. Because if she thinks that you don't care or whatever and you really do, there is no chance. She may be right, she may not be. There are tons of girls that may be hotter and better in bed. I guess it all comes down to what you want.

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Wow, everyone is breaking up. ^^^Almost exactly my situation minus the rings. Thought for sure I was gonna marry this girl. We were together 4 years. I just got so sick of the stupid fights all the time and constant bitching that I wanted to be single. Plus it was a long distance relationship. But now I'm really missing her. I want to call her and I also don't want to call because I don't want the same ---- all over again. She really is a great girl besides that and I keep thinking I'm missing out.

I really don't know what I want. I was with her for so long and I only dated a few girls before her that didn't mean ----.
So I sure don't know if I should try to get her back because it was the only serious relationship I had and the only girl that ever meant something to me.

I keep thinking that its a good idea to date other girls but I keep thinking that I want to be with the ex because of how good our relationship was at times. And if I date other girls I think that I would be wasting time that I could be using fixing things up with the ex. Its so hard to let go of someone that you still have feelings for. It feels like I still love her. I think maybe I should let it go but I don't know any better. Any opinions?

Sorry to thread jack but I thought this was relevant.

And to the people that keep saying if its meant to be than it will be. WTF is that supposed to mean? If neither of us call each other for whatever reason then its obviously not gonna work and that means its not meant to be? And if we call each other and get back together then it means that it is meant to be? ??? I think it takes some effort, not its either meant to be or not meant to be. Alot of problems can be worked out.

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I broke up with my girl like 2-3 weeks ago and I'm actually had a little time over it. I kind of fell for her, but like I really think we're two different people.


Take a REAL close look and see if it would really work out or not. If you two are compatible. That's one thing I don't think her and I shared.


JP

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you nignogs are all fucked up over girls. :y
one thing you dont want to do is tool over the girl and think somethings going to work out,
then realize months later that youre a fag for wasting your time.
i know, i did it, and it jaded me on bitches for a loooooonng time.

that said i broke up with my then girlfriend twice for extended periods of time.we're married
with a kid and short of winning the lottery i couldnt be happier.

i think the key is loving the girls shortcomings, and her, yours.

anyway good luck. and if it doesnt work out, drink samuel l. jackson beer, youll be ------ fat bitches in no time.

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well said. It'll get ya drunk!


I'm so mixed up right now too... the second we get back together, it'll probably be the same old ----. My plan is to work through the pain right now and just give it some time. Perhaps after we've both fucked a few more people, 1 of the following will happen:

a) We will both realize we want to get back together
b) She gets pregnant
c) I get a raging case of herpes
d) Both a and b
e) All of the above


I'm hoping just (a), but you never know... a raging case of herpes sounds like a good excuse to get off of work for a while.

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Let her be for a while, and see if she comes back to you. She knows that you want her back (from you constant calling).

I've been with my girl for 3 1/2 years. She's my best friend, and we get along really well. She loves the boost, too :6

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what are u guys thoughts on years of best friend becoming girl friend :-\

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not good for a gf because she knows everything about you :-X

but i think it would work out for marriage :P

im about to find out 8) wish me luck :'(

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One of my best friends from highschool is really ------- hot. There was a point where me and the current girly had a little seperation (only a few weeks), and that other girl was the bestest friend I could have :6

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What are your thoughts on long term relationships?

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i think its good if you think you can do long term.

kinda scary, but thats what im avoinding :1 been friends for hella long, and we both want more.. :X

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---- SEX?

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OK let me try and chime in here,
I'm in the same boat but on a much higher level, me and my girl have been together for 7 1/2 years, about 3/4 months ago there was a huge blow out and we broke up. she moved out of my house, we closed our joint accounts the whole 9. After a fwe weeks i tryed to get over her by hitting up the bars and just hooking up with random chick, even brought a few home and smashed ass all night long. I still found myself waking up in the morning yerning for the girl i lost. Now fast forward to today, We are still not living together but have been talking / working things out. We have talked about moving bck in with each other, getting married and moving forward in life. Me i'm 25 and i'm ready to take the next step in life, wife, kids ect. i don't know how old you are and were your at in your life. One thing i will tell you is that THINGS ARE NEVER MEANT TO BE IT'S WORK it may be easy at times and it's gonna be hard at times, it's the hard times that determain were your relationship is really at, it's never going to be all ----'s and giggles, your gonna have bumps in the raod, it's all about compromise and how you can handle the situation together.

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That`s the part that i am not certain about. I am pretty sure everything will work just fine with this girl since I know pretty much everything about her and vise verse.

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Damn guys I almost forgot I made this thread. Iv'e been busy trying to win my girl back. Thanks for all the feedback I do appreciate it. Im only 20 to whoever asked. This girl was so damn good and it is hard to find girls like that these days. Seriously shes hot as ---- (columbian), smart, her parents well off, the list goes on and on. I dont know why I took things for granted. Im def. not wanting to hook up with any sluts (that ---- got old in the past). I dont know it just sucks when you know things can be Great and have all intentions to makes things the best they possibly can and you cant get that one CHANCE. Im feeling short changed. Oh well I got to go guys the clubs going to be popping tonight and im pretty sure she will be there. Peace ------!

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HAHAHA dude you sound just like me a month ago. Take it from me: LET THE BITCH GO
And duck spoiling your G/F. If she treats you like ---- to begin with, buying her ---- and letting her get away with acting however towards you, she's not gonna respect you, just gonna take for granted all the ---- you do for her, take advantage of you, then leave your ass once you wisen up and start treating her like she does you. My Ex. did the same ---- to me. We dated almost 2 1/2 years. I would have gave my life for that bitch, but she always acted like she didnt give a ---- about me most of the time. We split up 2ce but got back to gether before prom, then she left me 2-3 weeks ago cause I started treating her ass like she treated me. Apparently she didnt like it-we got in a argument, I tried to be mature and apologize afterwards, and then she left me. I was like ---- it, your a stubborn bitch, thanks for wasting my money and 2 1/2 yrs of my life. I ------- didnt go to UTI in orlando cause I didnt want to leave her, and this is the ---- she pulled. I had a new girl bythat next week so it didnt really make a difference I guess. I'd go more into it but I dont feel like it or care. If you ask I will tho.

But in general its ghey. Let ---- be ----, stop trying to make old ---- better if it was ---- to begin with. ----.

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---- works like a charm, even better if she knows about it then you can laugh when she turns into a ----- trying to make you jelous.

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Thread Jack and I need some advice now. :-\


So before I wouldn't talk to her and then we did just text and she sent wrong texts to me how she'd be going out with another guy. NOW:

A) Jealously Card
B) Dumb Mistake (several times ::))
C) Make Me Made being a meany

Well, stopped talking because I don't play games. Last night texts me says "Hey!!" and I don't respond. AOL that night she messages me and asks me about it and I was being smart to her and like "I guess we don't talk anymore." Said my side I just was busy going to bed bye. Today she sends my buddy a text in conversation saying "I get it all the time from my new boy". Mind you she's not a virgin, but is no ----- or anything. Had sex with only BFs and like 1 "mistake freind" or whatever that is in the past. I wouldn't really put it past her though so:

A) Jealously Card to an Extreme (lying)
B) Jealously Card to an Extreme (true)
C) Get back at me for not texting at her beckoning
D) Just straight up mean again


Sorry to jack, but I hate to even say it bothers me, but I'd lie if I said it didn't. Honest opinions. Thanks guys.



JP

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for one shes a girl she's a girl. let me list her problems.
1. shes a girl, girls sometimes arent that bright and dont see anything wrong with what there doing.
2. shes trying to make you jealous no matter what she says.
3. could be lieing or telling the truth about being on some other guys nuts. either way shes a ----- for saying it to you and your friend
4. somethings wrong with her to delight into trying to enrage you with text's and messages about her.
5. let it go and dont even talk to her. unless (first she dumps whoever shes going out with, then appoligizes to you, buys you something for you car, then lets you do the whirlewind on her)

you need to compelty forget about the girl. the only reason your always thinking about her is becuase you have been with her for so long. and every day you would talk to her, see her, think about her. but it stops now. give it at least a few weeks of not thinking about her at least before you try to think about her.

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Oh man Josh.. I'd never think she was that way from the way you talked about her -_-

I'd say its a mix of all 4 maybe...

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Yea Dan, I found a winner. You ain't kiddin' either, bub. She can go hot or cold at the drop of a hat. :l

Salesmonkey, I like you. Good advice. Got done texting it over with a girl freind (not combined ;) just a freind that's a chick) and she agrees like you do. Jealousy, whether did or didn't, that's her goal. My Dad said before and I see it now (freind agreed also) I didn't jump to text her back or really WANT her back and it kills her so I figure she is just trying to attack. :-\ Sucks because last time I tried to be nice she sent me those texts as afore mentioned. Like, she won't just be freinds kind of deal then says "sorry, I didn't mean to send it to you" Ha, like the time the movie we were going to see she saw it with some dude. Annnnnyway,


Thanks alot. I needed that. LOL. My only deal (besides letting this fade) is meeting NEW chicks, you know? Try to get my mind elsewhere. My work and what not makes it awfully hard to find chicks I don't know that aren't freinds. :-\ I have faith in God, I'll get some ladies. LOL. :P


JP