fuck up last night.. relationship shit(update)
 

Me and my buddies decided to have a LAN party last night. So we all get there set up.. and its at one of my buddies house. Well anyway his wife decided to bring her hot ass friends over. I am in a 1 1/2 year relationship mind you.. my girlfriend is 20 miles away at MY house not knowing a damn thing. before you know it i'm dancing and grinding on this amanda chick, haivn a good time.. about midnight rolls around we're cuddling and ---- ont he couch. then we go back to a bedroom and make out, but we didn't do anything more than that. I feel like ---- for doing this. Should I hang myself now? or wait and let my girlfriend shoot me?

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no reason to have a guilty concious if you didnt poke her in the butt. whatever you do dont confess! youll get over it

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nothing wrong with kissing and cuddling, at least u guys didn`t ----, forget about it and try not to do it again if u feel bad about it

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Swallow a bullet. Your relationship is over. You have broken her trust and no matter what she says, she will NEVER forget or fully forgive you.

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DAMN Dude.
I called my girlfriend another girls name on accident once while we were having a evening to ourselves...
She didnt forget about that for 5 months. She never let me forget that...
Anyways I think the best thing you can do is let your girlfriend know. I dont know for a fact what will happen but if you guys have been dating for a year and a half Im sure you guys will find a way to work things out.
Relationships are tricky, but honesty always prevails... most of the time.

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its over if you tell her.
would you forget about it if she made out with some other guy?

exactly what csaddict said

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Yeah, the whole time I was with this chick i was thinking.. damn what if this was allie with some dude.. then i'd just think yeah but this is sweet this chick is hot. I dont think i have the nut to tell her. She will leave if I tell her for sure.. but I know that if the opportunity came again i'd take it.. i'm just that way. I dont know if she even needs to be with a guy like me, she is a good girl. I dotn know what to do.. all day long here she has been asking me whats wrong because i'm down in the dumps about it.. Damn, I dont know what to do.. I feel like complete ----.

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wtf !!!thats exactly why you dont tell her. confessing your normal male instinct to bone chicks to your girlfiend is ----- ----. ignorance is bliss

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ya dont tell her. just dont do it again unless you dont care then do what you want. but if you want to keep your relationship pretend like it never happend. and make for sure that other bitch doesnt call you.

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Yeah, I didn't give her my number or ask her any contact info. Only issue is.. her best friend was there.. and i graduated with her.. and she knows my girlfriend. I hope word doesn't get around because everyone was drunk so hopefully they forget what happened. Also everyone there which was like 10 people were from my hometown..

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You're fucked. If you don't tell her, she'll find out and dump you. If you tell her, she'll dump you. Nice work. :-\ :3

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since you said this i would tell her before she finds out from someone else....no matter what its not gonna be fun....be a man and stand up for the fucked up ---- you did and hopefully you can salvage your relationship...thats if you want it even

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sry dude

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Just dont say a damn thing and dont worry about it, seriously, when is it ever going to come up? You're over thinking it.

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don't tell her.

and if she finds out from someone. be like, "that bitch was drunk as ----, she was all over (person's name she doesn't know)"

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tell her you went to the party had a ok time met a pretty cool chick named amanda thats all. She will probably be mad but not leave your ass mad then if she heres anything else denie everything pretent like she(amanda) is crazy, just down play this ----. DONT ---- UP AGAIN IF YOU ACUALLY LIKE YOUR J/F!

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Dont tell her, Deny EVERYTHING. You better start sucking up to your G/F in case she does find out.

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thanks for all of the advice guys. See, the thing is. My g/f now lives here part time and goes to school.. i pay all of the bills.. i doa ll of the cleaning.. I have to do it all.. she does nothing to contribute.. so that was a factor that played in last night.. iw as just like i dont give a ----. Now I understand she goes to school and such, but she should get a part time job and at least pay like utilities. I think i'm gonna hang low for a while and try to get out of the relationship before she finds out I cheated on her.

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Let me put some basic Tom Lykis action on this...

- If you are younger than 26 years old, you should not be in a "relationship" of any kind. A year and a half is a long term relationship. Assuming that you are under 26, you should be out there experiencing every girl you can, not locking yourself into a long term relationship.

That said, if you are grinding and cuddling with this other chick, that should be a good indicator to you that you are not getting what you need from your current situation. No matter how guilty you might feel, you still saw it, wanted it, and did it, so obviously you are not completely happy with what you have. It might feel "comfortable" and you might care about your girlfriend, but you have to be honest with yourself, figure out what you really want, and then move forward.

I'm not saying that you should confess to your current girl, as that will cause a lot of hurt and drama. Just figure out what you want, and cut her loose if she doesn't fit into your desires.

Craig

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yeah, i'm 21 my g/f is 20.. and this amanda chick i was makin out with was 26. I feel too young to be settling down with just one girl. My g/f hasn't given me any in like 3 months . i dont know wtf is wrong with her she like has no sexual desires at all.. and i brought it up to her.. she got pissed and is like.f ine we'll ---- every night.. now i dont want her to do it if she doesn't really want it.. What I really want, is someone who wants to express their feelings in a loving way and in a sexual way.. I'm definatley debating on telling my g/f that when she goes to college this week to her apartment.. not to come back.

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Get rid of your girlfriend. In 2 years use the search function and laugh at what a bizznitch you were acting like. One day you'll be married and you'll read this post and think what a bizznittchle you were. Dump her.

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That sounds straight up honest to me right there. 21 is way to young to be supporting a chick who isn't giving you any. Every chick is looking for some guy to finance their desires, don't be that guy if you aren't getting what you need back from her. Cut her loose and spend a few nights banging this other chick. Oh, and get your keys back or change the locks.

Craig

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Why are you on HMT talking about this?

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If you know there's no way she'll find out, don't tell her. Yes you should, but it sounds like you'll really jepordize the stability of your relationship so much over something that was just dumb. It sounds like you've learned your lesson and you were being dumb, so picture this as your second chance, and you won't do it again. Just be thankful you didn't ---- up worse.

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Because its ------- funny!

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stop being a pansy ass bitch. you shoulda fucked the bitch.

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I totally get why everyone else is talking about this on here, but why would someone bring it up?

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Dude your 21 rail every ----- you can stick it in.

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Whoa.

TT advice is even better than their customer service. Dr Ruth couldn't have done a better job. Craig, you in the right business, buddy?

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i think you should tell her. you already said you would do it again and it also sounds like she could possible find out. then if she sticks around its her own damn fault if she gets hurt by this later on. if she dumps you then start bone'n the hot chick. sounds like a win win situation to me

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If you're with a 20 year old who doesn't put out and you've only been together a year and a half, you can:

1) Dump that bitch!!!

2) Take her ---- forever until one day you have a shotgun barrel for breakfast.

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Yeah, I'd say tell her. Think about it this way. If she dumps you, then is she really worth the guilt that you're dealing with now? I'd say relieve yourself of it, especially if you're getting fed up with her ----. Oftentimes, an event that suddenly ruins an iffy relationship reveals itself as a blessing in disguise in hindsight. And it's totally true, if it happened in the first place, then you're not truly happy.

And then you'd have a big opening for the hot chick.

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holy ----. i just read the part about her not putting out. what the hell are you doing. dump her and forget all about it

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She does laundry, cooks.. and her grandfather owns a multimillion dollar quarry.. and he's 85 years old, and when he goes then, her grandmother is oging to sell it and split it up with just my g/f, sister, and their parents.. big money.. but she dont put out

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You are a true idiot.

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:y

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yea, money or not. you gotta get some ass

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What you did is justifiable. Its called "sexual frustration". I have never understood why guys hang out when a chick wont put out ???

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i agree with jago on that one

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It's called friends, you do it because the chick is cool as hell. Keep in mind that hanging out is not dating, and old girl has a duty to put in a good word about you with any dirty sluts you meet.