SkunT

it is illeagle if say an E-4 dates or marrys a E-8 or if an enlisted dates or marries officer, vice versa. (its callled fratinazation, same as the real world) This gets streteched alot though. If the service member isnt of the same branch, it usally doesnt really matter. Or if like a E-4 marries an E-8 and they arent in the same chain of command no one usally says anything.

theres alot to it...

Breaker84

I'm gonna be in the air force, don't know how often thy get deployed. Yeah, I don't know what to do because I wanted us to everyday living with her. I was feeling all smothered and the house is always messy and ----. I got tired of that because I'm a neat person but I just got tired of trying to keep the house clean. And people always keep telling me that if I truly love her then I would want to be with her all the time. I disagree. Another thing is she keeps telling me she wants to get married cuz she's like 22. Only 2 years older than me, but that doesn't seem like a big difference. She makes it sound like it is. ---- we'll see what happens. HEY, GIVE ME ANOTHER BEER! j/k

quadnie

To the curb man, don't get tied down at such a young age.

I agree with Mike on that marry me or lose me thing.

PinoyB18A

I'm married and in the military. And I'll tell you this much, YOU MUST HAVE A WHOLE LOT OF TRUST. That's what's going to determine if you two are meant for a lot more...

Communications (lots of it) is also a plus in any relationships whether near or far...

SkunT

pinoy hit it on the head. you see in a military town, you have a ---- load of males, and about 10 percent of those males being married. (so a few females) so when deployments come up, the girls are stuck there with the other 90% of males left. get my point...

and dont say.....
because there is a good chance...


and whats your job gonna be in the air force, do you know yet? i know that they arent deploying alot of air force, so you might be a little safe, but still...you will deploy. excerises and such...

I would say maybe get engaged if thats what she wants, but I would wait to marry until you get to your duty station, and find out how living is and all of that. Plus save up some money man....Im serious.

nonvtec

Girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me because she wanted to be "independent". That was a month ago. Girls suck, cannot be trusted until you're married to em, even then maybe not.

SkunT

the first part was said well, and straight to the point.

the second part, if you do that, and things go wrong, your fucked out of the money you spent on a ring. and if you are like me, i spent $3grand on that ----. (the set) but well worth it.

you will have a hard time at first, ive been married 2 years now and it still sucks. (money, issues, ---- like that) I love my wife to death, but i find myself alot thinking I wish I wouldve waited.

My reasons are- putting her through being by herself through deployments, sometimes I wish I could give her more, I feel like I dont give her the life she wants. Military pay blows goast *****. FYI, did you know that a militay person under 3 years of service lives under the poverty level? Last year I made 14K as a 3 year E-3. so think about that.

I really hope you are reading all of these posts and adviece. Im sure my wife will want to comment to you, because we were once in your shoes.

Breaker84

I'm doing aircraft electronics. Will be in texas for 6 months and who knows where the hell I'm gonna be after that so it would be nice to know there's something waiting for me at home. This is like the fourth time we broke up, but I mean we've always gotten back together in less than a week. I love her to death. I've just been really stressed out lately because I'm in a bad financial situation with credit card and owing my stepdad money. And my stress shows in the relationship so she's a little upset at that. For example I'm depressed all the time when we're together, don't feel like having sex as much, grouchy all the time. All the stuff stress does. But yeah, Thanks so much for the advice and support guys. I appreciate it, you guys are great.

HondaTuner

Good luck with whatever happens... with being young, hell, my grandfather got married the day after he turned 18 and spent 45 1/2 years with her ("Til Death Do We Part"). You never know man, but if you feel like she's the right girl, then do it.