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sorry no cliff notes :)

anyways, recently my best friend broke up with his girl of 3 years...they were really good together but as of the last few months they just weren't on the same page about their future and all that. he lives out of state(and has been for atleast 2 years of their relationship)...thus when his girl needed something for her car or whatever guess whos there to take care of it. when they had arguments, guess who was there to get them both back together. me and her were friends before she met him through me, but not as close, but now for at least the last 2 years of their relationship, me and her would hang out every now and then and talk on the phone regularly, I admit I was becoming interested in her, BUT out of respect I kept it purely friendship and he knew that and was cool. anyways in the last few weeks after their final bad breakup, me and her have been hanging out on the regular, talking on the phone for hours, sometimes just about BS and joking around. now for my perdicament...of course theres the obvious fact..she is my best friends ex, pushing up on her would make me look like a serious ASS! and he's my boy, like brothers almost. second I've been though enough relationships to know that crossing the line with a female friend can be hectic, especially in a situation like this, and even though the girl is giving off "signals" like crazy, they aren't comfortable with being anymore than friends(damn girls and their mixed signals)...don't wanna ruin the good relationsip with her I already have. but shes the perfect chick(has her own car, going school, smart, cute, good job) and I'm tired of dating these ignorant hoodrat hos with no intiative, so as of late I can't stop thinking about her.

but anyways, anyone ever been in a situation like this?? we were chillling at my house tonight...just hanging and my mind was going crazy, man oh man girls suck. >:(

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cliff notes: hmt, should I ---- my best friend's ex?

kylez answer: your friend is out of state, he doesn't need to know. if he gets mad just tell her to say she's pregnant.

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This happened to Snoop Dogg once:

"I kicked open the door, it's my little cousin daz and he's fucken my hoe."
"I uncocked my ----, I'm heart broke- but I'm still a loc. Man, ---- the bitch"



My moral side says hell no, but my evil side says to rail the bitch out violent style for your friend, then drop that hoe.
Really. You don't want to ruin you and her relationship? ??? ::)

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Well, my bestfriend dated my ex-girlfriend, but he asked first, i broke up with her, so it wasnt a big deal to me, they were better for each other, not really, he fucked her up, so many bad habits, beat her when drunk, etc.... So she broke it off with him and he killed himself a month later. Fucked up, fucked her up, but i was there for her this time, and its been almost 2 months, and were pretty much back together. SOme people think its wrong, but hey, im sure he'd rather me be with her than some random -------. But make sure its alright with him before you openly date her, or be prepared to lose a friend.

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yep be open and don't tell lies or go behind their back. Bad deal. I had a friend that thought that I was doing this but I never really carried this through. When she was simi drunk she would be naked and ---- on purpose when I was there. Nice body . Shes a slut though. What a bitch. I almost lost a friend over this. But he never said anything.

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I'm actually somewhat on the same boat as you, except it's my girl's best friend :-X

Girls do suck! >:(

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maybe you show post up some pics ;)

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good advice guys...especially the "violent railing" LOL ;D
but yeah I'd plan on on asking/telling him if anything should happen as far as seriously dating her, it would be awkward as ---- though :-\ ...and of course I wouldn't just jump out there and ask her right now since its only been about a month. i figure just let ---- run its course and if it comes down to it than I'll just have to make a decision and hope everything comes out fine.

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few ideas:
#1 Ever heard of having ---- buddies???
#2 Find out if she feels the same way for you. I would tell her the way you feel. It will be weird....
#3 Pull one of those...hey lets go out sometime,(or even just make one of those late nite adventures to wal-mart), just to have fun, and do all the polite things, open the door, all that ----, and kinda slip in a hand on the back thing or something like that. See where it goes from there.
Who knows, maybe she stayed with him to see you?
#4 post a pic on HMT!

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If it were me I'd have 2 options.

1. Don't do anything, be friends.
2. Ask your best friend how he would feel if u two started dating.

Bro's before hoe's

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Very, Very, good point! talk to her first, then say it this way to your buddy...she wants to date me. Make it sound like her, not you

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listen to these HMT fools! They got some good advice. I'm surprise no one has really said, "---- your best friend and ---- her too" And whoever would say that should get it hard in the ass without KY.

Anyways, post some pics I'm sure we got some HMT members whos waiting to get their keyboard dirty. haha :P

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dont do anything dumb.... hes your friend before shes anything to u. if u wanna end u fighting the kid and not talkin 2 him anymore, do what ya want. if u really wanna see this chick, talk your buddy first. be straight up, the truth gets u alot further.

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If things are going to happen you and her, you better be a man!

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Is her mom hot?! ;D

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yeah, no doubt...I'd never do anything sneaky like that and even if we did hookup, I doubt she would suggest hiding it either. and yeah her mom is kinda hot too... 8) and no pics you e-horndogs ;)

thanks everyone for the advice too, we'll see what happens. relationships need to be like they were back in elementary school...when you liked a chick who was "with" another kid, you just asked her, "hey I like you" she'd think about it and be like "ok" and roll with you...everybody goes on with life....so simple back then LOL :)

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I don't really get why guys care so much what their ex girlfriends are doing. They don't own them anymore, thats why they're called EX girlfriends, and you can't control your ex girlfriend's life...

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Yeah dude, dont run to your friend and say hey Im gonna date your ex, ask her first, find out if your even an option for her, then be like well, Im gonna talk to .....
and see what she says.


wanna hear another story about moms...
when I was dating my wife, I thought her(wife) and her brother we wrestling around on the floor when I waslked in...so I smacked her on the ass. Her mom turns around....
it wasnt my wife I smacked on the ass.....

moral of the story...
I dont know, still thinkin about it and that was a long time ago.

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Bros before hoes man...

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In my lil world, it is called called "respect". You don't just date a girl they've been dating and think that its cool--just like you, they have emotions as well, even if they are AK-47 or M16 welding SOB's.

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*SMACK*

ROFLMAO @ sccaeg, talk about an awkward situation. :D

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newb question....whats ROFLMAO mean?

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Rolling on the floor laughing my ass off.


I changed my mind. I can only give good advice after I see pics. It helps my decision sway either towards the violent railing, or the leave it alone. :D

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ROFL is Rollong on floor laughing

but other part im not sure

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yeah i knew it was something on those lines...
thanks

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whether i see pics of her or not dude... theres only one smart way to go about this. First you have to find how she feels about you and if theres even a chance for you guys without making it obvious ur in love with her ;). And if she does want you, your gonna have to ask ur buddy man, tell him ur tired of all the hoes story and that shes tearing u up inside..." You know how awesome she is man, at least let me be happy" But if this guy is like your brother, id stay away from her till he gave u a 100% greenlight

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dude i have been in this situation, and let me tell you its not pretty.
i had a friend just like you said, i met his girlfriend befor he did, they went out for 4 years, i would chill with her/talk to her on the phone everyday ext, ext....
well this is what happened. she wanted to go to prom, but her boyfriend/my good friend, did not have the money to go. so being a friend to her she asked me to go and i went. well you no what happens on prom NIGHT ;)
so basicaly i started dating this girl, and i actualy contfronted her former boyfrind/my friend... and lets just say he didnt take it so good. i lost him as a friend and my roomate/another good friend, over this one stupid bitch, who ended up being a little slut to begin with >:( so i lost her and 2 very good friends---to this day i still dont talk to them :-\

moral of the story... DO NOT DO IT!!!!

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you said this guy is like your brother and you're talking about ------- his ex? Please man... if he was your brother this wouldn't even be a question. Drama is for chicks and queers.

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I hear you, and morally I understand fully, its cardinal sin to cross the line with the friend's ex(especially when your close), *gasp* lol BUT reality wise...I'm no different than the next man to hit on her right? but one of the reasons I'm really leaving this up to chance rather than pursue her hardcore is I don't wanna lose either of them like that. right now I think best thing to do is just hit her with subtle hints every now and then and see where it goes, than worry about how the outcome will be...double edged sword

and this isn't about getting some quick ass...although that would come with the territory I guess. :P I'm waaaaay past that stage of life, if I was in it for just some quick ass, I wouldn't even be racking my brain over this, I'd still be messing with some fluke ass hoodrat chicks...a bootycall is no big deal to me. trust I'm more interested in her as a person and just the way her life is going right now is perfect for me cause I'm on the same road(my boy wasn't exactly), plus shes no where near being a slut or anything like that, so if we do have anything, I'm not worried about it being a pointless fling.

but whatever happens, I'm definently not ignoring any of the advice yall are giving, everything is considered...yall are some cool peeps :)

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Bitches come and go, but my ------ are my dawgs for life - DMX

I'd say make sure yer best friend is cool with it. If he is, then think about it. If not, drop her ass. If that was me, i'd boot yer ass up :P

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I was just gonna say the same thing....I have said it in a similar way...

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amen brotha. Also we need pics to see if shes even worth it....

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Damn this is a long thread. I didn't read everything, but I'll throw in my thoughts.

Don't ever ---- your buddies girl. It's not cool. There are plenty of girls out there. Don't ---- up a friendship over a -----. Go find another one.

Even if they are broken up, don't even try it unlesss you want to throw the friendship away. My brother went out with chicks I dated and even though he asked me if it was cool and I said it was, it wasn't. I was pissed and wanted to hurt people. I don't exactly know why, but I was super pissed and I didn't want to admit it. I had to ---- a few of his old girls to get over that ----. ----, I'm still a little pissed about that. >:(

I have had chances to ---- friends girlfriends, but out of respect and wanting to keep a friendship, I didn't do it. It's not worth it.

Stay friends with the girl, but don't do anything you wouldn't want some other guy doing to your girl/EX.
I know it's hard when you're in the situation and things are getting crazy, but damn....you gotta have some control. :-\
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I think you better hit that just once right now for safe-keeping, then decide if further advancment is needed. your single right? hit that ----. and right before you blow on her yell your own name out that should confuse her.

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We all have been in a similar situation with this ----.

Mostly good advice, DOC pointed out some good ----, for some reason I know every rap quote that stealth throws out.

Bros before hoes, there are more fish in the sea, don't fuckup your friendship. In the end if you go with her, it won't last forever.. you will have a little bit of immediate pleasure and have to live with loosing both of them one day.

If your friend tells you "yeah go for it", he doesn't mean it. Just get permission for blowjobs from her, don't get mixed up in a relationship. Just my .02

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This is the best advice yet!

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LOL... ;D

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Do you want a relationship over your best friend? Coz if you two hook up, you'll lose your friend for sure. Just ---- her once and run away. And take pics...lots of pics
And movie footage if you possibly can

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Have some respect for yourself man.. Don't get involved..
You'll be the bigger person in the end.

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i didnt read any of the responses, but i've been in this situation. If she's worth it, i say go for it. Your friend will forgive you if you act right about it, just be sure to let him know whats up. Just tell him that you've been hanging out with her and youre not sure if it will go further but if it does you'll let him know. The biggest thing is that you make sure she isnt doing this just to get back at him or some ----. When this happened with me, thats what i thought and i ditched the girl, only to find out she was for real :P :-X