RotaryGeek

ok so this sucks. my grandma is almost 80 and has real bad alzhiemers and today we find out she has breast cancer that has ------ pretty far. she only has like 3 to 4 months. we had to put her in a home becuase my uncle who lives in the same town has emphazima too bad to even take care of himself. they both live in ely nevada. 2 years ago my grandpa on that side of the family died and there was no way we (me and my dad) could get up there. last year my uncle on the same side of the family was killed in an accidental rollover on an icy road. we were in a financially better place with some help from my mom so we made it up there for my aunt and helped her through that. now we find out this stuff about my uncle and grandma. neither has too much left in them and i really want to go see them one last time. now here is the problem. i live in central texas. its a 21 hour drive to salt lake city utah, where my cousin lives (same one i posted about in the pit bull thread who has the cane corsos) and only 4 hours to my aunts house in wyoming from there. 6 hours in the other direction from my cousins to ely nevada. now i have enough time to take a week off of work (6 days on three days off). that would give me 12 days to get there and back. the closest time i can afford to ship me and my dad up there (he isnt working right now) would be dec 28th through jan 8 when i just get my pay check. i have a really close friend who is willing to come with us and chip in a couple hundred dollars to make it a little easier on us. now i have to take the time off which is the hard part. we are extremely short handed at work (max security prison being short is a big big no no) and i dont think they will approve me the 6 days i need off. i am probably going to end up calling in sick those days and just getting a doctors note anyways. we are going to drive up there in my dads kia spectra and rent something all wheel drive while we are there ( by the way, anybody know off the top of there head a economy all wheel drive that will fit 4 kinda comfortably?) cuz after seeing my uncle die in a wreck cuased by ice im not wanting to try it with 2wd. money is a huge issue here becuase ill only have around 1g to spend after i pay the bills i absolutly have to pay. guess im just going on and on by now, it just sucks to have so many people on my dads side of the family die so close to each other. really hard on him.

45psi

do your thing the best you can.
family is forever, paydays come and go

buk9tp

grab some roundtrip airplane tickets.. its slow season and tickets are cheaper..

---- a 21 hour drive

honeslty if i were in your position id go alone pick up your grand ma and bring her back to live with you

---- putting old people in homes..

if they really do need you that badly at work then they will understand that you need a week off

RotaryGeek

yeah i know what you meen, but his is a really good job for me. i love my job and i dont want to lose it, but family first. hopefully they see it the same way and let me go but if not im going to need a doctor who will give me a not for 6 days on some made up bullshit. i guess a plus is that its the end of december in utah and wyoming when there is a couple feet of snow. living in texas sucks for ay kinda cold weather fun. maybe some snow boarding and snowmobile fun is in order. and i can finally bring the guns my grandpa left me in his will home without having to pay the shipping.

QikEnuF

Damn man, rough situation. Family comes first though, work will understand that.

Tom-Guy

They don't always. Use the sick days, lie like hell, tell them your hemorrhoids never flared up that badly before and they won't ask too many questions.

Colten said it best:

RotaryGeek

it doesnt help that im already on probation at work cuz my lieutenant is a dyke Bitch who hates men so its gay. my other lieutenant is working tonight so im going to talk to her about it first. i love her, she gave me a baby cat for my girlfriend and woks me in high risk areas when i ask even though im relativly new at the job (only 8 months so far). hopefully she will help me out.

RotaryGeek

i love my lieutenant. i explained my situation and she told me do what you gotta do, family before paychecks. you can always get another job, you cant get a family. she was very understanding, even told me exactly which forms to fill out and checked to make sure i had the time. told me to put in for the time and if they cant do it go to the captain. then the major, the the assistant warden then the warden. if a time dispute gets to the major he normally approves it cuz he can see your doing everything you can to get the time off so it must be important. they do take family emergencies into consideration so this might work out. now all i have to worry about is money....... damnit.

Jorsher

I could photoshop you a quick doctor's excuse if you want to make up a hospital visit/car accident. Have done it before. However you've already mentioned to coworkers that you need time off so it'd probably look suspicious.

I know what you mean as far as bad luck though. My aunt died a couple months ago. I went to WI a couple weeks ago with my dad to visit family (that I haven't seen in 7-8 years, all of my family except immediate). Called my mom to see what the number/address was of her parents, and turns out she just showed up in WI as well because her dad wasn't expected to last another day. He had colon cancer, things looked bad, got better, thought he had cancer again, things looked bad, got better, he was put in a home (health was having ups and downs and was impossible/hard on my grandmother to help him), he got pneumonia, seemed to be getting better then started losing a ton of weight, they suspected cancer again but he was too weak for testing or treatment so decided to let it run it's course. Years ago when I saw him he was completely healthy and full of life. Last time I saw him he was skeleton thin, sprawled on a hospital bed, looking into space, unable to speak (not even sure if he could tell we were there), eyes open staring into space (requires energy to close eyelids, he didn't have enough), and slowly gasping for air. Every hour or so he would start trying to move around, didn't know if he was uncomfortable or in pain since he couldn't communicate, so every hour on the dot they'd bring him more morphine. Today lost my 2yr job due to the new prescription (alprazolam "xanax", for anxiety and insomnia) helping a bit too much with my sleep and me sleeping completely through the alarms (had one set on phone, ipod, and alarm clock).

As everyone else said, do what you gotta do and go see family. They don't come back, jobs are always around. I regret not spending more time with my grandparents.

salesmonkey

i was new at a job about 2-3 months and the only guy who did a two man job leaving for a couple days(night crew already short on hands) when my grandpa died and they understood. if they dont understand immidiate family dieing then maybe you should go postal on them. good luck with everything and maybe sell something extra you have to help with everything. i had to sell all my guns and turbo stuff to get by. its a small price you have to pay but then once you get back on your feet you can buy what you want again.