Well before i go on and talk about ---- you might not care about let me tell you that i am in a really hard place right not.
I feel like my world is falling down on me and i cant do anything aboutit.

So here goes. the wife and i got into it again for the 3rd time since we have lived in gardena, well not the 3rd but the police were involved. So it all boils down to us having totally different personalities and both of us not wanting to comprimise and meet half way. Me, im stubborn as a ..well i'm stubborn. She too is very headstrong and i hate it. So i have come to the conclusion that living together isnt gonna work. mainly because we both are very differnt and the only reason i was still their was to make the whole "family " thing work. You see its very important to my family that you work ---- out even if you are miserable and have 20 kids. Me, i dont thikn i could lie to myself for that long. sure i would love for things to work between Maria and I, but the truth is it's not gonna happen. So i guess plan for marriage at this point are non existant and plans to have a happy family have been raped from me because of someones power trip to call the cops and have me arrested.
I can't live my life in fear like this anymore, its not healthy and i hate it, having to look like a ----- when you go to the station and try to explain to MR PIg officer that your woman is PSYCHO!
I didnt really wan't this but at the same time i don't think i would be happy knowing that at any given time i could go to jail cause of her mood.
California's laws againts domestic violence are set up to ---- over the guy and not the girl. I have gone 2 jail 2 times because of her and have been lucky the past 3 times the cops have had to come and see what the problem was.

All i can do now is move forward and hope that the both of us can be adults and work this out seperatley for the sake of My son Mathias.....---- i miss the little guy already...

for those of you not having any kids involved in situations like this i dont expect you to see things my way but still now that it isnt easy....

thanks for listening....

Julio Bustamante

 

I don't know what to say man but hopefully things will be get better when you move out and have some time apart. Who know somethings might be for the better. It's gonna be hard for the little guy to be stuck in the middle of this though.

 

---- julio, I feel for you man. You know I'll try to help you as much as I can, you know our arrangement. Hopefully things can work out between the two of you, but if not, just keep your head up man.

 

Damn man, between the tickets and ----. Life is shitty now, but thigns will turn around. Only way things get better though is through hard work. No other way to it. Good luck with it man.

 

possibly the best advise ever.

 

That is the only way things work out. If ---- is going wrong you gotta make up for it by just working harder.

I am not saying that you are, but you can't just say "life is shitting on me", and then sit there and let it happen

 

Julio, don't worry about mathias, he'll be ok. You love him more then I've ever seen a dad love his son. if he has nothing else in the world he'll still be the richest kid I know.

I personally don't think it is healthy for you or for him for you and maria to still be together.

If there is anything I can do I'm there for you man.

 

Relationships can be hard work sometimes.
Anyone who thinks that being in a relationship is easy street is in for a big shock, cause there's always something coming down the road to test the both of you...

LOTS of fights I seen come down to basic mis-understanding of whats expected by one another... so say everything u gotta say, & then hear *everything* she's gotta say... and then and ONLY then are u in the best position to know what to do next...

boosty....hang in there dude cause I know u know that these things have a funny way in working out in the end....

 

Damn Julio I just talked to you the other day and was telling you to do the marriage thing. Oh man I feel horrible now and completely forgot about cali and the 3 strikes law. I'd say run for the hills cause it's a little to see your son behind some bars and post on HMT :P. Had to make you laugh alittle. I just think if she's done it twice before what's gonna stop her from doing it again? Well I hope that you things work out or that maybe things don't work between the two of you but are intelligent adults and can work something out with little Boostamante about visitation. PM me and let me know if you chat about this. I've gone through this too! HMT sticks together like chit on your shoes!

 

damn, taht sucks man. i was kind of in the same boat, i love my wife and never wanted to leave her b/c of our daughter, but finally enough was enough, like you, every time we would get in a fight, she would threaten to call the cops on me and what not, it was ridiculous, finally, i just left one day, as much as it hurt to 'give up' on my family, i couldn't take it any more. after about a month of being seperated, she realized what a crazy ----- she had been to me all the time and got a reality check b/c she never thought i would leave her, i gave her another chance, mostly for my daughter, but things are a lot better now and we just might make it after all. if maria loves you enough, maybe the same thing will happen for you, if she's not willing to change even after you're gone b/c she realizes that she drove you away, then she doesn't love you as much as she should anyways, sometimes it just takes drastic measures for people to reevaluate a situation, hopefully things will work out for you in time so that you can be a family again