B16Drag

Take it slow, dont make it seem like its her fault, try to "EMPOWER" her (meaning give her ideas but dont make her do it... "SUGGEST"), try not to blame stuff on her, be nice real nice... Make lil comments like "you were so sexy in when you wore that skirt" -- its hinting that she needs to lose some weight or shes up the creek... she'll get the point eventually and will try to think on her own. Gotta use "Positive Reinforcement".... damn I feel like I'm a shrink already...

Good luck...

SpeedyJAY

Consumer Credit Consuling is probably what you are thinking of. My roommate had that meeting. First thing they do is cut every one of your cards up...then they take care of the bills/creditors....and help settle many of the debts and resetle on smaller interest rates, to help deflate the principle on your cards. VERY VERY USEFULL.

Bottom line is every woman has problems no marrage is ever perfect. She does ---- that bugs you and you will do ---- that bugs her, its all on how you choose to deal with it. Just dont dwell on everyting that is bad. Its real easy to look at a person and pick out every bad thing about her (had a 2 year relationship like that). In the end your heart will follow your mouth.

However these financial troubles need to be dealt with, or the harsh realities of credit scores will shoot you down as you exit the service and try to start your life. You need to deal with this, cut up all the cards, and start eating top ramen. Go to the CCC consoler with your wife...basically you need to show her you guys are at rock bottom on finance (even if you really arent).

Dealing with big *** problems like credit are depressing and your girl seems to be taking a typical denial response...however dealing with them provides a way out and will ultimatly help in rebuilding your lives

deacon2377

Sac up and start drinking. Honesty will follow...

quadnie

That sucks that the BS is hitting you. Suprised to see some solid advice from other people. Granted I'm not married, and my relationships don't last all that long (I blame the girls I find, always problems with them) but you need to seek some counseling.

You were a bit young to get married, so backing out of it might not be such a bad thing, but try to see if you can recoupe the marriage first. For the debt, find a lawyer to figure out where you stand, you might be able to get free consoltation since you are in the armed forces.

I do have a close friend who used to be a party animal like me and decided to settle down and rush marriage, I've pretty much been the only one who he can talk to like a real friend anymore, since I know him from the way he used to be, and he reflects on my life as something he misses.

First off, he met a country girl from his hometown, simple girl, just rushed the marriage thing. He was unsure about it at first, the whole adjustment thing took some time. They both were working, sex was good. Then the baby thing started, had their first one, he straightened up for an entire year after his kid was born. He would call me late at night on road trips (work related) and we would talk for an hour many times a week. It was sad knowing him for that year, he was living the clean life, never swore and listened only to gospel music (more like a shell of the person I used to know). Now they are on their 2nd kid and he has turned into the person he used to be, lazy unmotivated alcoholic ***** (yep, my friend). He now likes to call me and talk for a few hours and get drunk on the phone (we live a few states away) and his wife will get pissed at him. The moral of the story is they have adjusted to the married life, he does what he wants to do, she does what she wants to do. He doesn't even have sex with her anymore, he's too lazy.

About the closest thing I know to marriage, hope the story helps.

SkunT

THanks for the advice...
I am gonna get ahold of that CCC. I cant stand the way we live. All the credit ********* that call...
I have nothing bad on my credit, its all her, and it hurts US?! I am gonna talk to her, and see what is going on cause this ---- cant go on to much longer or Im gonna go ape ----. (I would never hit her if thats what you guys are thinkin) Thanks

quadnie

So she fucked her credit before marriage? Well you might be able to get out of this one alive.

One more thing, I never trust navy wives. Seen too many girls that go out to play when the husbands are out to sea.

SkunT

Ohh yeah. Military wives.....thats another subject.
My wife isnt the typical miltary wife. your thinkin of like contract marrages and ----...
Your thinkin of the hoes.
I can honestly say my wife isnt one. And yes, she did have the credit problems before we got married. damit@!$%^$%^$%^#

HondaTuner

lol ScottSi. :P

Hope all the good advice (for once on this site) has helped ya man.