need some og help deciding
07-30-2008, 12:04 AM
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need some og help deciding
me and my girl live at home with my dad. since my parents divorce i have always stayed with my dad, the other two kids didnt. i am real close with my dad. as it is i pay some utilities and the phone bill. my problem is that over the last six months or so, my dad and girl have gotten to the point where they cant stand each other and im forced in the middle. on one hand, i have my dad, my own family, and im pretty much his only family anymore. on the other hand is my pregnant girlfriend who i love and want to keep happy. but it never fails that when they get around each other a fight breaks out. most of it is my dad bitching about her not cleaning and not working. and then her saying she does clean and so on and other ----. pretty much sucks for me being stuck in the middle. so i eventually agreed we need to move out, even though my plan of paying off a bunch of bills and getting my credit up to a decent at best level hasnt happened yet. i have to separate these two to have any kind of happiness. my dad called me today and told me he doesnt want to have this house all by himself (he gets vry stir crazy being locked up all day) and he decided that after we move out that he was going to go over the road again driving trucks. he asked if we would be up for staying here to take care of the house and the animals. there are already a bunch of pros and cons about it, but i just cant make up my mind. i mean half the problem dissapears when he leaves, but then more problems of my own appear becuase he is gone. i kinda feel like im driving him out and thats the only reason he is doing this. i know its not my job to keep him happy and he is a big boy, but he is such a hermit and rdepends on me alot. i cant ------- decide what to do, help a nog out.
07-30-2008, 01:19 AM
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Re: need some og help deciding
thats exactly what he says chris, but he also doesnt understand that keeping this house clean is a full time job in itself, and he is by far the dirtiest person in the house. he makes more of a mess than all the animals together, so he is taking her work for granted at the same time.
07-30-2008, 01:32 AM
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Re: need some og help deciding
Originally Posted by RotaryGeek
thats exactly what he says chris, but he also doesnt understand that keeping this house clean is a full time job in itself, and he is by far the dirtiest person in the house. he makes more of a mess than all the animals together, so he is taking her work for granted at the same time.
I know because I sound like your Dad. Im a dirty guy but people I live with I support the house alot more than they do so its give and take
He pays the bills he can be messy just the way I see it. She doesnt throw money in the equation she should be cleaning up and making his life easier.
Its all about understanding who is the Boss and listen to them. I had a complex when I was younger thinking I was the one running the show but was a pawn. Bosses dont like people below them giving them lip.
Your dad is being way cool for letting you guys stay there, I got the boot at 17 and had some really fucked up parts of my life at that young age because being young/broke/unemployed in a poverty striken area ***** with your mind. I would of loved to have a house with free rent just to clean up and just agree with the Boss of the house.
Sounds like you and your dad are solid. Your girl needs to suck up some pride and take it has she needs his help so if he's a dick sometimes just take it in stride.
07-30-2008, 01:35 AM
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Re: need some og help deciding
Originally Posted by chris
I know because I sound like your Dad. Im a dirty guy but people I live with I support the house alot more than they do so its give and take
He pays the bills he can be messy just the way I see it. She doesnt throw money in the equation she should be cleaning up and making his life easier.
Its all about understanding who is the Boss and listen to them. I had a complex when I was younger thinking I was the one running the show but was a pawn. Bosses dont like people below them giving them lip.
Your dad is being way cool for letting you guys stay there, I got the boot at 17 and had some really fucked up parts of my life at that young age because being young/broke/unemployed in a poverty striken area ***** with your mind.She seems like she has never had to know when he next meal will come from,to be robbed for what little you have. Thats what she would go through if he wasnt helping you guys, I have been there and why I respect anyone to the fullest now that helps me even in the smallest. I would of loved to have a house with free rent just to clean up and just agree with the Boss of the house.
Sounds like you and your dad are solid. Your girl needs to suck up some pride and take it has she needs his help so if he's a dick sometimes just take it in stride.
07-30-2008, 08:03 AM
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Re: need some og help deciding
yeah i know, i like being here. its comfortable and its home you know? and she has been really good about just sucking it up and dealing with it, but its to the point now where they aregue non stop about anything and then when they arent around each other they bitch to me about the other one. i hate it, so to fix it i decided to separate them. i just cant decide to move out or let him go over the road. i dont want him here by himself, but its either that or over the road. and im not aborting my kid ravage.
07-30-2008, 10:00 AM
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Re: need some og help deciding
kinda sounds to me like you are growing up, and your old man doesn't know how to deal with it. you can't live with him forever, esp. with a bambino on the way. your old lady should be cleaning and cooking, and not complaining about it, because that's what women do when they are unemployed.
