I need a divorce!
08-11-2007, 08:19 PM
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Re: I need a divorce!
Originally Posted by rudebwoy
counceling is a must especially when kids are involve, get some counceling professionally, I bet the it will help ya'll to sort out the real problem in the relationship, and give ya'll ideas on how to fix it. plus the judge is going to ask if ya'll got counceling before concidering divorce.
08-12-2007, 11:56 PM
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Re: I need a divorce!
Originally Posted by MR2 Gurl
From a woman's opinion, sounds like she is raping you in the *** with sandpaper. Its unfortunate that most states will not award custody to REAL FATHERS/DADS when the mother cannot be proven "unfit". 9 times out of 10 the state will opt to keep a child with the birth mother over anyone, including fathers. I'm hoping this changes to suit the truly good fathers out there, but its just now becoming a slim chance over none.
Two major problems I see you running into here.
If you petition for divorce, she may claim that you have been committing adultery. If your son has said anything about your current girlfriend, you may be in trouble there. She will most likely take what little you have left just based on that. She will cite that your reason for divorce is the other woman, and they will vote in her favor.
Secondly, the divorce will most likely lead to a custody battle, in which she may try to keep you from having the right to any custody. From the sound of whats going on now, she is slowly prying him away OR using him as a pawn for your attention. Even if you are granted joint custody, this actually means that you will see your son on her terms, when it is convenient for her; much like what you're dealing with now.
I'm not sure what kind of positive advice I could give, as this is always a rocky situation. If she is in any way reasonable, try your hand at telling her how it is, the way you need it to be, or get ready for war. Tell her that you are just trying to remain a good father to your son, but that your schedule requires a little more flexibility out of her.
Best of luck to you, I'm always on the side of REAL fathers.
Two major problems I see you running into here.
If you petition for divorce, she may claim that you have been committing adultery. If your son has said anything about your current girlfriend, you may be in trouble there. She will most likely take what little you have left just based on that. She will cite that your reason for divorce is the other woman, and they will vote in her favor.
Secondly, the divorce will most likely lead to a custody battle, in which she may try to keep you from having the right to any custody. From the sound of whats going on now, she is slowly prying him away OR using him as a pawn for your attention. Even if you are granted joint custody, this actually means that you will see your son on her terms, when it is convenient for her; much like what you're dealing with now.
I'm not sure what kind of positive advice I could give, as this is always a rocky situation. If she is in any way reasonable, try your hand at telling her how it is, the way you need it to be, or get ready for war. Tell her that you are just trying to remain a good father to your son, but that your schedule requires a little more flexibility out of her.
Best of luck to you, I'm always on the side of REAL fathers.
Now, the only thing i knwo that in CA you can get divorced for anything. YOu dont need to explain anything. I belive its called dissolution of marriage. Besides, she has her boyfriend now cause i was sent a text by mistake and she fessed up about it. The other thing is that she also started seeing another guy a while back ( we separated over a year ago ) and would go on dates with her, my son, he and his little girl. SO she's no angel.
Im gonna go to this place www.legalgrind.com
Its near my work. I'll see what i can do about this.
08-13-2007, 01:43 AM
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Re: I need a divorce!
Originally Posted by Zeniceguycrx
if she has feelings for u sill get her to go to a party with you. video tape her getting all drunk and then get a friend of yours to get her to do some drugs, even weed.
use this video evidence to show she is a unfit mother
use this video evidence to show she is a unfit mother
and call child protective services on her and tell them shes doing drugs while the kids in the house.
08-13-2007, 03:52 AM
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Re: I need a divorce!
Originally Posted by burkej62
^ and all that would do is get the kid tossed into the states custody and thats the worst thing you can do if shes really not unfit.
08-13-2007, 11:13 AM
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Re: I need a divorce!
Joe Escalante, he's my lawyer. He doesn't want money, he does it all for ya. And he knows what he's talking about....
Indie 103.1 mp3
Julio, I thought you guys were divorced already. This is a very tough situation now.
The court is going to look at several factors, not just income. Savings for Mathias as well. Safety will be key. Environment, household, transportation, etc. Is his school close by. YMCA was a smart thing for Maria to do. It helps her case out unfortunately. You need to talk to some professionals right away and come up with a plan.
You can do it! Stay up man. I wish you the best bro.
Indie 103.1 mp3Julio, I thought you guys were divorced already. This is a very tough situation now.
The court is going to look at several factors, not just income. Savings for Mathias as well. Safety will be key. Environment, household, transportation, etc. Is his school close by. YMCA was a smart thing for Maria to do. It helps her case out unfortunately. You need to talk to some professionals right away and come up with a plan.
You can do it! Stay up man. I wish you the best bro.
08-13-2007, 02:01 PM
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Re: I need a divorce!
Originally Posted by whiterice
Joe Escalante, he's my lawyer. He doesn't want money, he does it all for ya. And he knows what he's talking about....
Indie 103.1 mp3
Julio, I thought you guys were divorced already. This is a very tough situation now.
The court is going to look at several factors, not just income. Savings for Mathias as well. Safety will be key. Environment, household, transportation, etc. Is his school close by. YMCA was a smart thing for Maria to do. It helps her case out unfortunately. You need to talk to some professionals right away and come up with a plan.
You can do it! Stay up man. I wish you the best bro.
Indie 103.1 mp3Julio, I thought you guys were divorced already. This is a very tough situation now.
The court is going to look at several factors, not just income. Savings for Mathias as well. Safety will be key. Environment, household, transportation, etc. Is his school close by. YMCA was a smart thing for Maria to do. It helps her case out unfortunately. You need to talk to some professionals right away and come up with a plan.
You can do it! Stay up man. I wish you the best bro.
Do you know that last night when i called to speak to my son at around 9pm she was not home and had not been for some time? he told me she was out in the desert somwhere and that she wouldnt be home till later on in the night. well, had than been me she would have made a big deal about how what ever time i have with my son should be spent with me and he and that i shouldnt leave him with my mom or sister. Now here she is doing just that and she didnt even come home till past 11pm. What a douche! I even called her to ask her if i could take my son all this week to the YMCA so i could at least see him in the morning and she never returned my call or texts. This sucks royal ***!
