broke up w/girlfriend
After, a year and a half of living with one girl and breaking up, how would you guys take it? I'm ------ depressed all the time man. She'll probably take me back if I show her that I want her back. But I'm going in the military in october. I'll be gone for 6 months. She just wants us to be engaged before I leave so she knows I'll come back to her and not find someone else. She was the perfect girl for me. but I don't wanna propose cuz I'm only 20. I told her that and that's when she dumped me. What the hell would you guys do?
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tell her if you love me that much, you would wait till i get back......
im thinking the hole reasin she broke up with you, is that she thinks you will cheat on her while your away. your gonna have to do some pretty good convincing <---sp but if it dosent work out. then it just wasnt ment to be. just keep your head up, youll find somebody better. im sure your gonna be feeling bad/depresed for a while, but it will pass. trust me ;) |
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THanks, I've benn getting drunk like everyday too. I got problems, all this is happening at the worst time too. Like I need to find a job but I'm too depressed to. Anyone got any interesting breakup stories?
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if you fel that she is the one for you, buy her a ring and a necklace. Put the ring on the neclace, and give it to her.
Tell her that you love her more than anything in the world and blah blah blah. Tell her that the ring on the necklace is like a proposal, except that it is not. It is just a way to represent the way you love her and that you would never do anything to hurt her whether you are engaged or not. Tell her the ring is to show her that you will come back to her like a man comes home to his wife. If she asks why not just propose, just tell her, 'you and I are are mature and smart enough to know that it is too soon to make a decision like that.' Then tell her that you want to make sure you get your life together mentally and financially before you make a committment. Something along those lines will do the trick. You could even tell her during the time you are gone she could wear the ring so other dudes will know to back off. This will serve two purposes, one, you really love her and don't want anyone else to touch her, and two, she might giggle and laugh, girls like to laugh. Oh and if you are dead serious about her and think you could spend the rest of your life with her, you could go one step farther and buy matching rings, one for her necklace and one for you and you can tell her that while you are away that you will wear the ring so not only will the other girls know you are taken, but while the two of you are apart the rings will make you two that much closer. Good luck man, let us know how things go. AND STOP ------' DRINKING! >:( |
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Im right where you are breaker, except my ex is mean, and no matter how much i show her i love her, and forgive her, she always leaves me when she fucks up. 2and 1/2 years. It's tough to move on.. i haven't been able to do it yet.
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Originally Posted by Turbodelsolman
Im right where you are breaker, except my ex is mean, and no matter how much i show her i love her, and forgive her, she always leaves me when she fucks up. 2and 1/2 years. It's tough to move on.. i haven't been able to do it yet.
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women are the devil, cars are where its at ;)
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just move on dude, you're young.
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Yeah, could see myself with her, but I like girls a lot. Maybe I'm too young to be thinking about commitment. afraid I might cheat. I'm with her every second so I don't get the chance to even talk to other girls, she hangs out with her guyfriends and I dropped all my female friends. That sucks. Don't know what the hell to do. She treated me like a king though. Hope there's other girls that are willing to do that
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plenty of fish in the sea. Never trust a girl who has all sorts of "guy friends"... she will dump you one day for one of those guy friends.
Wait it out man, you'll find someone better; after that you will find someone ever better. |
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Murdoc you are now the official, HMT, in house.... sociologist 8)
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yeah my girls is worried about me and my business, but I would never drop my female friends. They are her friends too so she would have nothing to worry about. These girls have been there for me and I will for them whether she likes it or not. She ditched most of her buds, but I never asked her to, so i dunno. I guess she really doesn't like it because all my close friends are girls, I really never hung out with the guys, except now with the HMT SoCal meets ;D
About her and her guy friends, I dunno about that man, ya'll need to make compromises, if you ditched yours, she's gotta do the same. Or go hang out with your old friends, if she flips, then she'll just have to get used to it, or the two of you ain't gonna happen. But then being treated like a king.... hmmmm..... I could feel you on the liking girls and cheating thing. Man in the time I've been with my girl I have met so many hotter girls that I clicked with and could have evolved into something, but knowing that there's this sweet little girl waiting for me keeps me from doing it. It sucks and it's hard too. I'm at college, and there are some ------'... well that should explain it. I have a place to myself and no one to know ----, but I don't do nothing because I know she is there waiting for me back home. Temptations man. :-\ As far as other girls out there, I'm sure there are girls that are willing to treat you like she did, but for me I want to ditch mine even though I know I would never find another like her, so I'm lost in my own thing. In the future you may find another girl, but she may not be a 'serving' as this one, but she still may be better. I somewhat agree with quad on you'll find someone better; after that you will find someone ever better Again good luck AND STOP DRINKING! |
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Well... it's not like she has ALOT of guy friends. She has one that she hangs out with sometimes, and then she has her brother that has a rap group so she does music with all of them. Man, I dunno. I don't know what's gonna happen with me or us when I go to the air force but I don't want this to end up with me saying, "---- me, I should have stayed with her."
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The thing is, she calls me and asks if I miss her. I don't know what to say. I don't want to look weak or anything and I don't want her to control my emotions so I just don't say anything. It's hard to keep quiet about my feelings though because I know she's hurting just as much as I am.
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dude just get back together with her. she doesn't realy want to marry you for a ring or whatever, she wants to tie you down. if you feel miserable without her then just get back together w/her, suck it up and get married. i got married last year to my girl for 3 years back then, now 1 year married. mariage is way over rated. all it is is a paper realy. other than that it's the same crap as having only one gf for a realy, realy, long time. and if she's worth it marry her! don't ---- it up if she's a good girl and if she has values and all that other stuff that sluts don't have. by the way, she wants to marry you before you join the army cause she's worried you're gonna lay down more pipe then a plumber when you go partyin in some foreign country. by the way, when a girl dumps you and you don't wanna be dumped, try to convince her within 2 minutes. if you don't get back together for good, atleast i bet you're gonna hit it once or twice more. unless you realy fucked up and she caught you stickin her friend.lol ;D
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I'm 20 and engaged to be married next year. don't lose something that you'll regret forever just because you don't think you are old enough. trust what you feel, not what you think.
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yep true bamboo, breaker don't listen to your friends! just do what you feel and keep it real.
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Each sitaution is different. Follow your gut it's usually right.
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Originally Posted by Breaker84
After, a year and a half of living with one girl and breaking up, how would you guys take it? I'm ------ depressed all the time man. She'll probably take me back if I show her that I want her back. But I'm going in the military in october. I'll be gone for 6 months. She just wants us to be engaged before I leave so she knows I'll come back to her and not find someone else. She was the perfect girl for me. but I don't wanna propose cuz I'm only 20. I told her that and that's when she dumped me. What the hell would you guys do?
Yeah, when you are in the military you get money for housing and food and such if you choose not to take base housing, but ours barely covers everything. If I were in your shoes, which I was about 2.5 years ago, I would tell her to wait it out. Things sound so easy to get together and get married in the military, but I wouldnt. If the world was stable and you could stay home and be with her, I would say do it, but not right now. Maybe you will just have to learn the hard way I dont know...but thats my $.02 IF you need any real anwsers about the military, ask me. Just PM me or something. |
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screw that. any girl that says marry me or lose me I pick LOSE her. what is she affraid of, you're going to find some hot army chick? lol?
besides. I dont know how it is in USA but in Canada it's "illegal" to have relations with another member of the military while on base. |
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Originally Posted by crx88Si
besides. I dont know how it is in USA but in Canada it's "illegal" to have relations with another member of the military while on base.
theres alot to it... |
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I'm gonna be in the air force, don't know how often thy get deployed. Yeah, I don't know what to do because I wanted us to everyday living with her. I was feeling all smothered and the house is always messy and ----. I got tired of that because I'm a neat person but I just got tired of trying to keep the house clean. And people always keep telling me that if I truly love her then I would want to be with her all the time. I disagree. Another thing is she keeps telling me she wants to get married cuz she's like 22. Only 2 years older than me, but that doesn't seem like a big difference. She makes it sound like it is. ---- we'll see what happens. HEY, GIVE ME ANOTHER BEER! j/k ;D
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To the curb man, don't get tied down at such a young age.
I agree with Mike on that marry me or lose me thing. |
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I'm married and in the military. And I'll tell you this much, YOU MUST HAVE A WHOLE LOT OF TRUST. That's what's going to determine if you two are meant for a lot more...
Communications (lots of it) is also a plus in any relationships whether near or far... |
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pinoy hit it on the head. you see in a military town, you have a ---- load of males, and about 10 percent of those males being married. (so a few females) so when deployments come up, the girls are stuck there with the other 90% of males left. get my point...
and dont say..... because there is a good chance... and whats your job gonna be in the air force, do you know yet? i know that they arent deploying alot of air force, so you might be a little safe, but still...you will deploy. excerises and such... I would say maybe get engaged if thats what she wants, but I would wait to marry until you get to your duty station, and find out how living is and all of that. Plus save up some money man....Im serious. |
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Girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me because she wanted to be "independent". That was a month ago. Girls suck, cannot be trusted until you're married to em, even then maybe not. >:(
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life blows...im 20 too and marriage, money, and my girlfriend worry me all day long (that and thinking about my car). If she is the one for you and the only thing keeping you apart is marriage, propose. Then you can go away and feel secure and come back and get married. If either of you ---- up during that period that you're gone, then call it off. This way, you can go away and not have worrying about her on your mind the whole time.
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Originally Posted by ghettoturbo
life blows...im 20 too and marriage, money, and my girlfriend worry me all day long (that and thinking about my car). If she is the one for you and the only thing keeping you apart is marriage, propose. Then you can go away and feel secure and come back and get married. If either of you ---- up during that period that you're gone, then call it off. This way, you can go away and not have worrying about her on your mind the whole time.
the second part, if you do that, and things go wrong, your fucked out of the money you spent on a ring. and if you are like me, i spent $3grand on that ----. (the set) but well worth it. you will have a hard time at first, ive been married 2 years now and it still sucks. (money, issues, ---- like that) I love my wife to death, but i find myself alot thinking I wish I wouldve waited. My reasons are- putting her through being by herself through deployments, sometimes I wish I could give her more, I feel like I dont give her the life she wants. Military pay blows goast balls. FYI, did you know that a militay person under 3 years of service lives under the poverty level? Last year I made 14K as a 3 year E-3. so think about that. I really hope you are reading all of these posts and adviece. Im sure my wife will want to comment to you, because we were once in your shoes. |
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I'm doing aircraft electronics. Will be in texas for 6 months and who knows where the hell I'm gonna be after that so it would be nice to know there's something waiting for me at home. This is like the fourth time we broke up, but I mean we've always gotten back together in less than a week. I love her to death. I've just been really stressed out lately because I'm in a bad financial situation with credit card and owing my stepdad money. And my stress shows in the relationship so she's a little upset at that. For example I'm depressed all the time when we're together, don't feel like having sex as much, grouchy all the time. All the stuff stress does. But yeah, Thanks so much for the advice and support guys. I appreciate it, you guys are great.
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Good luck with whatever happens... with being young, hell, my grandfather got married the day after he turned 18 and spent 45 1/2 years with her ("Til Death Do We Part"). You never know man, but if you feel like she's the right girl, then do it.
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Yeah, I think I'm just making a big deal about the "marriage" thing. Like trebor_nordap said, marriage may just be over-rated. It's just the government recognizing a couple as being a couple. But incase I get divorced, I just didn't want to end up having to tell other women I meet later on that I've been married before. Cuz my dad's been married like 3 times and he's about to go on his 4th, I just didn't want to be like that cuz I know there's money involved with divorces.
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