problems at home need advice.
08-27-2004, 08:03 PM
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problems at home need advice.
Well for those who dont know i am one of the younger active members here. I am having some bad problems at home. My dad lost his job because of this fuckclown guy named patrick who told the main boss my dad was ratially insulting a guy there, he got fired on the spot. [BS]
To add to the problems my stepmom is a ------- alchaholic and it bothers and embarasses me at the same time. It really puts alot of stress on me all the time. Ive talked to her about it but it doesnt help. The bad thing is that she isnt a bad person either =/
ALso the big thing is that job my dad had was a bling bling job , the employer actually tracked him down and hired him on spot. He got that job after working in a hell hole of a job on his own which he hurt his back badly, doing tile jobs on side to pay for my brothers college.
To sum it up, my dad is depresed to get a job, he just doesnt care, stepmom= drunl problem. I have one alternative and that is to move to Tampa, FL with my mom , but she would have to find a local job and i dont want her to quit her consulting job since she just got promoted to senior manager.
I dont know what i should do, id appretiate an honest word of advice form a neutral crowd. Thanks all very much!
To add to the problems my stepmom is a ------- alchaholic and it bothers and embarasses me at the same time. It really puts alot of stress on me all the time. Ive talked to her about it but it doesnt help. The bad thing is that she isnt a bad person either =/
ALso the big thing is that job my dad had was a bling bling job , the employer actually tracked him down and hired him on spot. He got that job after working in a hell hole of a job on his own which he hurt his back badly, doing tile jobs on side to pay for my brothers college.
To sum it up, my dad is depresed to get a job, he just doesnt care, stepmom= drunl problem. I have one alternative and that is to move to Tampa, FL with my mom , but she would have to find a local job and i dont want her to quit her consulting job since she just got promoted to senior manager.
I dont know what i should do, id appretiate an honest word of advice form a neutral crowd. Thanks all very much!
08-27-2004, 08:57 PM
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Re:problems at home need advice.
where do you live cause you don't speel very well...Do you live in Quebec?
My suggestion to you is get a job...be at home as little as possible and go party on the weekends...just remember drugs and alcohol are always there for you.
My suggestion to you is get a job...be at home as little as possible and go party on the weekends...just remember drugs and alcohol are always there for you.
08-27-2004, 09:33 PM
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Re:problems at home need advice.
I've been there trust me. Moved out at 17 from all the bs. Well we are looking for a Service writer/consultant down here in Ft.Myers FL. Just a little bit further south. About the only advice I would give is just keep your head in the game. Keep up with school and set some goals. No matter how shitty things get at home eventualy, and soon, you will be out of there just don't let it effect your schooling. My mistake was that I did. I had 2 full ride scholarships that I couldnt attend because I simply sould not asfford to live. I went out of high school right into full time work. Just do your best with your scholastics hang in there. the family ---- always finds a way to work things out.
FYI my dad is now on his 4th wife, my mom her 3rd husband. I went to 8 different schools growing up from moving all over the damn place. BELIEVE me I know how stressfull it can be growing up in a divided family.
FYI my dad is now on his 4th wife, my mom her 3rd husband. I went to 8 different schools growing up from moving all over the damn place. BELIEVE me I know how stressfull it can be growing up in a divided family.
08-27-2004, 11:12 PM
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Re:problems at home need advice.
lol i live in douglasville, ga i was typing louse because i was and still am pissed. glad to know there are people out there that delt with this ---- too. im talking to my mom about moving to tampa with her because i cant stand this bs here.
08-27-2004, 11:17 PM
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Re:problems at home need advice.
Tell your dad to go after his previous boss. Racial discrimination is grounds for dismissal, but not without the proper evidence against him. Tell him to fight it, whats he got to lose?
Talk to your mom some more about her drinking problem. Tell her how much it bothers you, and how much it would mean to you for her to stop.
Also.. just hang in there kid.
Talk to your mom some more about her drinking problem. Tell her how much it bothers you, and how much it would mean to you for her to stop.
Also.. just hang in there kid.
08-28-2004, 12:13 AM
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Re:problems at home need advice.
It's hard to know the whole situation by what you told us, but I'd just have to say to believe that things will get better. If you don't think things will get better, your setting yourself up for failure.
In your mom's case, (or any case of alcohol, drugs, bad habits, ect.) I'd say to talk to her and really lay out all of your feelings about what she's doing. If things don't change after that, than leave it up to her, but try to not let it effect you if possible. You can try and try again, but you can't help people that can't help themselves.
Your dad may be down for awhile, but if he can't get his job back, than he's just going to have to find another job with the skills that he has. He's also got to believe that things will get better.
Good luck.
In your mom's case, (or any case of alcohol, drugs, bad habits, ect.) I'd say to talk to her and really lay out all of your feelings about what she's doing. If things don't change after that, than leave it up to her, but try to not let it effect you if possible. You can try and try again, but you can't help people that can't help themselves.
Your dad may be down for awhile, but if he can't get his job back, than he's just going to have to find another job with the skills that he has. He's also got to believe that things will get better.
Good luck.
