not_honda

Communication is your friend
I am very open and communicative with Julio - he knows that. He always knows exactly how I feel about everything. My problem with him - he doesn't communicate with me and it makes everything so much more difficult to work through....

I guess it's a guy thing, cause when he gets on the phone with the HTM guys he talks up a storm and then when I ask him about something he doesn't say much - maybe you guys can help him open up on the situation and his feelings and help him analyze his situation and options. thanks for listening!

dragon

^^^^ to reply to your two post i doubt julio is going to forget about his kid. And whats HTM?

You should just really talk to him and try to work this out anything is possible it takes time and devotion that were your two vows i believe. if you two can take the time to call the cops wait for their *** to show up you can take the time to talk things out

not_honda

If in 5 years Mathias ends up calling another man "daddy" it would be all his fault for not wanting to BE A REAL DADDY.
to most of you guys this really got to you - let me explain myself: REALITY - If Julio and I do separate - I will eventually find someone else and marry and will have a new "daddy" for him - if Mathias lives with us, I would want him to view this new man as the daddy "male figure" that he will have at home - vice versa, if Mathias would go live with Julio and a "wife" wouldn't she be called "mommy"

yayopwrcrx

wow this is crazy-i think you guys should have a little talk

hotrex

call jerry springer

not_honda

Hi Murdoc,

I was just about to reply to your post and say what a great daddy he is and that Mathias loves him very much and that I do notice he tries being a family man, and I like that, when there is a knock on the door - Julio came with a police officer.

I ask Julio what are his plans - what's goin on? he tells me he doesn't want to talk about it and that I will be hearing from the police in a couple of days!!!
he gets some clothes and leaves.

I don't know what he is doing, but something so small that happened yesterday is such a big fiasco now....

we usually have a good time, some nights we go for walks around the block the 3 of us and we do things together, I don't know why he acted so controlling last night.

I think he's got too much pressure and can't handle the responsibility, and wants to get away from it all. Like right now.

If someone could help him analyze things - that would be great - it worries me that he is going to these extremes.

If he doesn't want to live with me - he should just tell me - no one is holding him hostage here. Maybe he no longer loves me - we had plans on getting married next year "JULY 1 2005" - maybe this is what has scared him away....

Dr.Boost

I skimmed through alot of this ---- because it's way too much reading for me right now, but my one word of advice to both of you is STOP CALLING THE ------- COPS. God damn it, why do women do that? Is it that bad that you had to resort to calling the cops? That's how guys get their lives fucked up. One phone call to the police and then we have all kinds of charges racked up and a huge list of fines along with court dates and lawyers fees.....yada yada...is that what you want? That isn't going to help anyone. The cops aren't there to help your social life or your marriage. The cops are there to put people in jail. Would that make things better? I've seen way too much of this ---- in my life and it's fucked up. I could be getting my *** kicked by a girl with my hands tied behind my back and she could call the cops on me and my *** would be sitting in jail with domestic violence charges. Knock that ---- off.
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HondaTuner

Complex stuff, good luck Maria

SkunT

i was gonna say that, but kinda thought this was a 1/2 way serious thread, so i didnt. good thing we have people like hotsex on here to take care of that!
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on the subject, is he on drugs? for real...

~is money an issue? i used to go nuts on my wife when we would be all behind on bills and ----,people would call the house, and that would really set me off on her. and we talked about things, and got things back under control. no big deal, just another day. life is full of problems. you just learn to deal with them.

~i dont think hes scared. when people live together, then get married, it doesnt really change the household any does it, other than "your married". so i dont know why he would be scared.