SkunT

I think his time apart will be good for the both of you.

he needs to figure himself out and so do you. for some reason i believe your side a little more than his.
also, you need to take what projekteg said into consideration.

another thing, and my $.02 do you guys show consideration/love to each other?

kain

kain points the finger at mary.

ToeJam

There is proof all over this board of him trying to be the family man. You and the baby are at all the So-Cal meets and he even brings Mathias when you aren't there. It would be very easy for him to leave you and the baby at home or drop the baby off with someone else so that he can go out and do his thing, but he doesn't. I can't comment on anything else you said because I don't know the situation, but I think calling him out about not being a real daddy is way off. He tries and that is a lot more than I can say for a lot of his guys in his situation. Julio will always be his daddy and it is too late to change that, so you better get used to the idea. This is between you and Julio, don't use your kid as a pawn.

MikeJ-2009

Wow, you actually posted something worth reading, Toejam.

ToeJam

Speaking of people dropping their kids of so they can do their thing..................

87na_rx7

jezuz... what a cry for attention, talk to julio all the peeps on HMT dont need to know your business. With that being said

AgentMurdoc

Hi Maria

I for one actually believe that it a good decision on Maria's part to make a post on here, just like Donald said "communication is your friend" and it seems the only way she can communicate to him at the moment is going to a website that he visits frequently as he doesn't have a cell phone and if I were mad at my significant other and she tried to get in touch with me I wouldn't let her.

Julio she obviously loves you man trying to connect to you the only way she knows how. I highly doubt she came on here to surf HMT and look at what we do. And Maria you already obviously knows he loves you too. Stealthmode is right on one thing, if he didn't wanna be a family man and be committed he wouldn't bring you and hijo to the meets. For myself, been with a girl for 3 years, I'm not ready to commit to anything, so she doesn't go to any HMT gathering or event.

Seeing as yesterday's conflict arised from simple use of the phone, maybe an easy solution would be to get a second line, or even a couple cell phones. Yeah I know that money is tight and money shouldn't be tossed around for things that aren't really neccessary, but maybe it is necessary? Depending on another home line or cell phones, I would think that it is worth the extra 20-60 a month if it could prevent something like this to happen again.

I hope the two of you can work things out, but in my opinion something that should NEVER happen if it doesn't, is allowing for hijo to call another man daddy. From what I have seen, julio is an excellent father, to be honest seeing what Julio does with Mathias is stuff I wish my father and I have shared, but never did since he was away for a good while trying to make the money to make the family happy. Julio has been and always will be a terrific father and if things don't work out, you should let him continue doing so. Julio is the hijo's father and ALWAYS will be for all eternity.

AgentMurdoc

Oh and if I was Julio and I was going to leave, I woulda took my kid with me. But he didn't and I'm sure it's because he knows you will take care of him in his, hopefully short, absence and he didn't want to Mathais in an uncomfortable situation.

not_honda

I don't know most of you guys, why would I seek sympathy from u?

I don't plan on posting anything else after today - just used this posting site for 2 reasons:

1.If you are trying to help Julio out by giving him advise -I would wish for you to give him the "best advise" according to the situation.

2. I would communicate with him directly - but I don't know where he is, so I'm getting my message to him through here I guess.

on another note - my child would never be my excuse to get to Julio. If Julio feels he wants to take custody of Mathias - we can arrange something I'm sure - He could have him one week and I have him the next week.... on the other hand if he wants to forget he had a child - he can.