mahcivic

i cant really relate to you but i do know alot about this from the kids perspective. my parents are divorced and have been for a while. the only thing i can really say is if its meant to be its meant to be. things like this happen for some reason that you will never figure out. good luck

SkunT

d16forlife

Youve stayed in there longer than I would of Julio.Just get the ---- out.Life is too short to live like that.

I know its gonna be hard on you to not be with your kid everyday but thats just the way life is going to have to be if you wnat to enjoy it yourself.

---- that old school mexican menatlity your fam. has about staying with someone just for the kid or just to make THEM feel good.You got to do whats right for you and that is to ditch her and get on.

Plus your a little fella and you must not fair good in jail :P **chants**fresh fish,fresh fish**chants**

Good luck!

hoggy

Thats rough. I can't imagine what it would be like to not be around for your child. I hate not being around for my brother since I moved out of my parents house. Good luck to you. You know HMT is always here for ya.


BTW, out of curiousity, I'm not familiar with the laws in Cali, but what can your wife call the cops on you for and get you in trouble. I'm assuming because of you language that she was calling the cops because you were verbally fighting. Why are they arresting you for that? or is she saying something else?

91civicZ6

if you have a woman who will call the cops on you, you have a woman who needs to get the ---- out

TMonarky

I usually don't like to comment on things so personal but in your case I'am compelled to say a few words. Never lose hope and never give up on your family because the only thing that can't be fixed is death. The best advise I can give you is "Trust in God, he will never let you down".


Keep your head up things will get better.

dragon

best advice. If you two don't work out then its might be best. Just as long as your there for your son and you love him thats all that matters really

J-MAN

hope things work out for you and your kids because i have a ---- that won't let me see mine

Donald125

Julio..well me personally didn`t invoid TOO MUCH long term releationship like yours :P but
let me brings MINE family as an example.
ever since i knows how to talk, i`ve always heard my parents aguring in the middle of the night. over stupid stuff, mostly about how much they are NOT communicating to each other, my mom even said she sould have just leave if they got no childerens. i remember how Mom`d crying and dad just kept dead slient and let her talk. now after all these years, finally we moved in here and my Dad just stay in HK. (they did NOT devoice)
i didn`t want to ammit it but it is the BEST thing it could have even happen. i mean if two person is NOT meant to be, then why kept on lying to yourself, and staying together because of the kid? Do you know when it comes to the last moment, you guys finally decided to seperate, who gets hurt the most? the Children that is.
imgaine after 20 years or so, the boy grow up and wanted to move out. Now without the kid, do you STILL want to stay with her?.
i meant i don`t know exactly what is going on between two of you. like Kevin said you might still have a chance if BOTH of you finally decided to work it out. and DO NOT feel selfish if you really have to quit because you feel like you are not taking care of the kid. How could the kid be happy if two of you can not get alone.

edit, i don`t know WTF i just wrote but you`d get it.

juli0_bustamante

its funn you say that..i actually understood you this time :P

but i know what you mean...i have been trying for the longest to get along with her and just deal with her but at the same time i dont really feel good about the whole situation. I kinda feel like i have no voice. like i'm getting stepped on. Maybe its just that i want to live a life different than what i have. Not saying i want to be single and ---- everything that moves, but just differnt with the 2 of us.

i stopped by today to talk to the manager about what was going on cause i stopped by the house to get some things. I saw maria and she wanted to know what was going on with me. ( mind you my son wastn home he was at day care ) but i really didnt fell like talking about it. I really need some time away from her.

D164life:

i know what you mean by not staing together for the kids cause our mexican families always tell us too. I mean i have many uncles and ---- that are together with the mother just to be wiuth the kids but at the same time hate their lives.
Its funny that they say" oH work it out for your son" and i know they mean well but things have changed and they come from a time where it was OK or accepted to beat their wives if they acted up.
Now a days you even thikn about that and your already behind bars wondering WTF happened?

I am with my son right now at my moms, i picked him up from day care and decided to spend some time with him. i know im on here writing this but i felt i needed to update you guys opn whats happening.

Irs no easy by any means, but i will be strong and try to keep my head up.
And thank you all for giving me your advice it's helping.