My fiancee was raped about five months back and since then she has wanted nothing to do with me. It frustrates me because just when I feel I can most support her, my very presence sends her into a panic attack. I can't even hold her hand without her reliving her rape over and over in her mind.

On top of this, as a result she is pregnant with triplets and doesn't want to place them up for adoption for fear that they wouldn't be raised in a Christian home. She couldn't bear that and I couldn't either. I know it would be tough all of a sudden becoming a dad to three, in a new marriage, but I would do it, if only she would let me back in her life. There's four months until the babies are born and she will need my support as her husband. I understand she might be afraid of intimacy at first and I respect that. I can't even talk to her on the phone anymore. I understand she's scared and all of that but I am not breaking my promise to marry her and she hasn't really told me that she's breaking up with me either... but what am I to do for her when she hurts so much and won't let me do a thing?