crx2fast

Murdoc you are now the official, HMT, in house.... sociologist

AgentMurdoc

yeah my girls is worried about me and my business, but I would never drop my female friends. They are her friends too so she would have nothing to worry about. These girls have been there for me and I will for them whether she likes it or not. She ditched most of her buds, but I never asked her to, so i dunno. I guess she really doesn't like it because all my close friends are girls, I really never hung out with the guys, except now with the HMT SoCal meets

About her and her guy friends, I dunno about that man, ya'll need to make compromises, if you ditched yours, she's gotta do the same. Or go hang out with your old friends, if she flips, then she'll just have to get used to it, or the two of you ain't gonna happen. But then being treated like a king.... hmmmm.....

I could feel you on the liking girls and cheating thing. Man in the time I've been with my girl I have met so many hotter girls that I clicked with and could have evolved into something, but knowing that there's this sweet little girl waiting for me keeps me from doing it. It sucks and it's hard too. I'm at college, and there are some ------'... well that should explain it. I have a place to myself and no one to know ----, but I don't do nothing because I know she is there waiting for me back home. Temptations man.

As far as other girls out there, I'm sure there are girls that are willing to treat you like she did, but for me I want to ditch mine even though I know I would never find another like her, so I'm lost in my own thing. In the future you may find another girl, but she may not be a 'serving' as this one, but she still may be better.

I somewhat agree with quad on because you now have a standard and you always try to get something better than the last. I've even told my girl straight up that if we split i will find someone better and she should too. It's just like a place to live, you don't go from a mansion to an apartment, you go from an apartment to a condo to a house to a bigger house to a mansion, you get the picture.

Again good luck AND STOP DRINKING!

Breaker84

Well... it's not like she has ALOT of guy friends. She has one that she hangs out with sometimes, and then she has her brother that has a rap group so she does music with all of them. Man, I dunno. I don't know what's gonna happen with me or us when I go to the air force but I don't want this to end up with me saying, "---- me, I should have stayed with her."

Breaker84

The thing is, she calls me and asks if I miss her. I don't know what to say. I don't want to look weak or anything and I don't want her to control my emotions so I just don't say anything. It's hard to keep quiet about my feelings though because I know she's hurting just as much as I am.

robs99si

dude just get back together with her. she doesn't realy want to marry you for a ring or whatever, she wants to tie you down. if you feel miserable without her then just get back together w/her, suck it up and get married. i got married last year to my girl for 3 years back then, now 1 year married. mariage is way over rated. all it is is a paper realy. other than that it's the same crap as having only one gf for a realy, realy, long time. and if she's worth it marry her! don't ---- it up if she's a good girl and if she has values and all that other stuff that ***** don't have. by the way, she wants to marry you before you join the army cause she's worried you're gonna lay down more pipe then a plumber when you go partyin in some foreign country. by the way, when a girl dumps you and you don't wanna be dumped, try to convince her within 2 minutes. if you don't get back together for good, atleast i bet you're gonna hit it once or twice more. unless you realy fucked up and she caught you stickin her friend.lol

bambooseven

I'm 20 and engaged to be married next year. don't lose something that you'll regret forever just because you don't think you are old enough. trust what you feel, not what you think.

robs99si

yep true bamboo, breaker don't listen to your friends! just do what you feel and keep it real.

Guy-Fast

Each sitaution is different. Follow your gut it's usually right.

SkunT

So your going into the military huh...what branch? Im a Marine. WIth that said, does your GF know that the world is in a time of war and you will deploy alot, do you know that, no one stays stationary, ---- what the recruiters say, unless you get with a real bitch job like admin or something gay like that you WILL DEPLOY! Even cooks deploy. Also, Im married, got married when I was 20 she was 19. We both have debt, and life sucks right now in the terms of money. WHen we first got married, we were just all about being together because I was in Cali, she was in Indiana. We didn't care about anything, just being together. So she called me one day and said, he im flyin out there and we are getting married,(which we were already engaged) so she did. I am happily married, but sometimes we wish we would've waited. We have a really good time together, always going out and doing ----, but sometimes we both admit that we would've been better off waiting. She hasnt finished school, I wanna go to school, this will 10X more difficult married,(my school is in wyoming, hers is in Indiana)

Yeah, when you are in the military you get money for housing and food and such if you choose not to take base housing, but ours barely covers everything.

If I were in your shoes, which I was about 2.5 years ago, I would tell her to wait it out. Things sound so easy to get together and get married in the military, but I wouldnt. If the world was stable and you could stay home and be with her, I would say do it, but not right now. Maybe you will just have to learn the hard way I dont know...but thats my $.02

IF you need any real anwsers about the military, ask me. Just PM me or something.

88crxSi

screw that. any girl that says marry me or lose me I pick LOSE her. what is she affraid of, you're going to find some hot army chick? lol?

besides. I dont know how it is in USA but in Canada it's "illegal" to have relations with another member of the military while on base.