Breaker84

After, a year and a half of living with one girl and breaking up, how would you guys take it? I'm ------ depressed all the time man. She'll probably take me back if I show her that I want her back. But I'm going in the military in october. I'll be gone for 6 months. She just wants us to be engaged before I leave so she knows I'll come back to her and not find someone else. She was the perfect girl for me. but I don't wanna propose cuz I'm only 20. I told her that and that's when she dumped me. What the hell would you guys do?

crx2fast

tell her if you love me that much, you would wait till i get back......
im thinking the hole reasin she broke up with you, is that she thinks you will cheat on her while your away.
your gonna have to do some pretty good convincing <---sp
but if it dosent work out. then it just wasnt ment to be. just keep your head up, youll find somebody better. im sure your gonna be feeling bad/depresed for a while, but it will pass. trust me

Breaker84

THanks, I've benn getting drunk like everyday too. I got problems, all this is happening at the worst time too. Like I need to find a job but I'm too depressed to. Anyone got any interesting breakup stories?

AgentMurdoc

if you fel that she is the one for you, buy her a ring and a necklace. Put the ring on the neclace, and give it to her.

Tell her that you love her more than anything in the world and blah blah blah. Tell her that the ring on the necklace is like a proposal, except that it is not. It is just a way to represent the way you love her and that you would never do anything to hurt her whether you are engaged or not. Tell her the ring is to show her that you will come back to her like a man comes home to his wife.

If she asks why not just propose, just tell her, 'you and I are are mature and smart enough to know that it is too soon to make a decision like that.' Then tell her that you want to make sure you get your life together mentally and financially before you make a committment.

Something along those lines will do the trick. You could even tell her during the time you are gone she could wear the ring so other dudes will know to back off. This will serve two purposes, one, you really love her and don't want anyone else to touch her, and two, she might giggle and laugh, girls like to laugh.

Oh and if you are dead serious about her and think you could spend the rest of your life with her, you could go one step farther and buy matching rings, one for her necklace and one for you and you can tell her that while you are away that you will wear the ring so not only will the other girls know you are taken, but while the two of you are apart the rings will make you two that much closer.

Good luck man, let us know how things go.

AND STOP ------' DRINKING!

Turbodelsolman

Im right where you are breaker, except my ex is mean, and no matter how much i show her i love her, and forgive her, she always leaves me when she ***** up. 2and 1/2 years. It's tough to move on.. i haven't been able to do it yet.

AgentMurdoc

That sucks man, you know what the best medicine for this? Move on and show her that you are 'happy'. And stop treating her to 'lovingly'. It's a known fact, at least in my experience, that if you treat a girl just slightly better than dirt they somehow like you more Take for example my girl now, I used to pay for all sorts of ----, clothes, food, gas, car stuff, pretty much everything. During this time she actually left me three times. Recently I was questioning 'us' and treated her way different, didn't buy her no more clothes, she had to start paying for her food and sometimes mine (of course sometimes I would pay just cause I felt bad), don't show her as much affection, I don't even hold her hand anymore. I treat her different verbally and everything, and she's stuck to me like glue. I think it might be that when you treat them less, they realize what a great catch you were and they try to get that 'perfect' guy back. So for you my perscription would be the opposite of breaker. I'm not saying it would work, but it's worth a shot. Take my situation for example, I hate the fact that my girl wants to do everything with me, wants to be everywhere I am, and it gets annoying and somewhat off a turn off. When you express your love for her, just don't push to hard or the boulder might fall.

Much luck to you too.

quadnie

just move on dude, you're young.

Breaker84

Yeah, could see myself with her, but I like girls a lot. Maybe I'm too young to be thinking about commitment. afraid I might cheat. I'm with her every second so I don't get the chance to even talk to other girls, she hangs out with her guyfriends and I dropped all my female friends. That sucks. Don't know what the hell to do. She treated me like a king though. Hope there's other girls that are willing to do that

quadnie

plenty of fish in the sea. Never trust a girl who has all sorts of "guy friends"... she will dump you one day for one of those guy friends.

Wait it out man, you'll find someone better; after that you will find someone ever better.